Baby class - Treated as one?

[Diamondsareagirls]

Hi everyone,

I will start by saying I am fully prepared for being told I am being precious here so be a honest as you like!

We have just completed a baby class for under 1s and it was brilliant. The leader was fab and helped me out with my dd and ds so they could both take part in each activity.

The only thing that has slightly niggled at me is that in other ways I feel she has treated them as a package rather than two babies. For example, we sing a welcome song to each baby at the start and mine have one song between them where their names are sung together. As it was the last one today the babies were given a certificate of completion. Mine were given one certificate with both of their names on. They haven't got a clue about any of this as they are too little but I intend to do the next one which will take them through to the toddler stages so would you say something to the course leader or just get on with it?! I have paid for each of them if that makes any difference! (I really appreciate there are far more important things in the world but this is my life atm!)

The song wouldn't have bothered me but the certificate would have.

I would mention it to her at the start of the next course.

Yes that is unfair. Are you paying for the class? Andtherefore paying for 2 children. I wouldn't be happy.

Yes, I pay for them both.

I have twins, though luckily haven't encountered much of this.

You should definately speak to the leader and poin out that they're two children and you would like them to have a song each and a certificate each. It's a small thing now, but they will take these things in when they're not much older. Also, the leader may do it with older twins, and your comment might stop her :)

Challenge this attitude everywhere you see it, and don't encourage it by referring to your DC as 'the twins' (as 'the twins' makes them into one entity.

The certificate is really annoying as you may wish to keep one for each in their baby memory box (if you have that sort of thing). X

That would really annoy me. I'd gently say something to the instructor. Aside from the fact than you paid for two individual children to take the class, it's important for her to recognise that being treated as an individual is perhaps even more important for a twin than it is for a singleton as they tend to already struggle with being seen as a pair.

Yes, I have memory boxes for them so this is one that's just going to have to go in another pile!