charts for twins

[carnation]

Hi I am fairly new to this so a bit slow to start. I have twin girls who are 8. One is very easy going will oblige in almost anything you ask her. Is very sociable and likeable. The other is the opposite end of the scale. Is very moody and awkward. Will dig her heels in all the time even though it rarely works. She is not at all sociable and enjoys mostly her own company. I don't want them to be the same and I am quite happy for them to have different personalities, but sometimes the behaviour of my dd awkward can put me in a bad mood and make a family outing become a nightmare. I am considering charts, but they would have to dwell on the positives and be equal for them both. Anyone with any ideas, these will be much appreciated. I have two older children as well so it is really important that we have some enjoyable family time and I don't make dd awkward feel like she spoils this most of the time.

Hi carnation - I'm afraid I dont really have any advice for you but wanted to bump the thread to see if you got some more replies. My twins are only 20 months old but already showing signs of one being really laid back and the other being the complete opposite. I'm sure its too early to discern what their characters will be like! I am sure someone will be along soon to give you advice. Mars has 5 kids of differing ages and she is very wise, so she may be able to help if she comes along shortly!

Thankyou harrogatemum. I just find it so difficult sometimes to make sure that I give the right amount of attention to both. My dd twin obliging is always the first one to master any challange and sometimes I find myself not giving as much praise to her as I would to my dd awkward. I just thought if I did a chart this may help with some of the awkward moments. I am not sure whether you are a member of TAMBA but they have brought out a new video on parenting. I started to watch it the other evening. What I saw of it seemed pretty good. Unfortunately I fell asleep before the end. It seemed to be focusing more on the comments from other people, but it was good just knowing that everyone gets the same questions. Good luck with yours if I can be of help I will oblige.