I just found out

[Queenmarigold]

... I'm expecting twins.
Am delighted / terrified / worried

Any advice?
Financial? Night times? Child care? Two of EVERYTHING? (Plus a 4 yr old)

How DO you do it?!

And mine were term and not small...

I had a 3.5yo when dtds were born nearly a year ago and it's been so much easier than I expected. The pros - eg the way they play together even at 11 months old - far out way the cons. They make me laugh so much. My girls came at 36 +5 weeks and weighed 5lb 15 and 4lb 6oz and it was CS as both were breech and dd1s birth was not great. CS was a breaze for me - emotionally I felt so much better and more able to deal with caring for the girls than I did after dd1s natural birth. I was well prepared for a CS which I think helped.

Life with twins is constant but not horrible.

My main advice is, always accept help when it's offered (even if you don't need it as they may not offer next time and that time you may need it) and if no-one offers, delegate. At baby groups mums don't like to interfer. I would ask someone to hold dtd1 while I bf dtd2 or once on bottles I'd get 2 bottles out and ask someone who had their hands free (like if their baby was asleep) to feed one of them. If they don't want to then they can say no but ime most people like being helpful.

I love being a twin mum. Being in hospital with mums around me with one baby each felt odd - 2 babies felt so right... by the time they were born. When we first found out I couldn't stop laughing for weeks (between the morning/all day sickness)!

You're a very lucky lady and truly best (even on a bad day) :)

Oh and get an Out and About Nipper pushchair (it's fantastic even though the seats can't face backwards)

Congratulations,

I've got 2 yo twins and a 5 yo DS. It is tiring but great (did I really type that?)

My advice would be to get them into a routine asap, I was on 3 hour feed cycles (I FF, BF for a couple of days but DS2 found it difficult and I couldn't move when feeding). I got a lot of help from family, MIL stayed for 2 /3 nights a week at first and helped with feeds. DH at weekends and I did the rest. DH had to sleep in the week for work. So many people advised that we split them and took one each, I don't see how that works if DH has to work. If one woke in the night, I woke the other and fed them both at the same time. I kept them synochronised during the days, feeds, naps etc.

A swing is great for soothing one if both are crying. Lifesaver in the early weeks / months./

I had a CS, but DS1 was a CS too and one twin was a breech.

Financially its a hit, I haven't gone back to work as 2 X nursery fees at the same age just didn't make sense. I've found that difficult, and still find it difficult.

DS1 is great with them, amazing, occassionally gets cross but they are great at destroying things. It is hard work looking after twins and making sure that he gets time with us as well.

I don't bath the twins at night, in the morning once everyone else is out at work or school. It means a less frantic evening plus DS1 gets more time with both of us.

I look at them now and still cannot quite believe I have twins, they make me laugh bumbling around together like little Tomliboos. Its a bumpy ride but fun.