My B/G twins fight...alot

[LovingTheSunshine]

My b/g twins are 19 months old. They constantly want what the other is playing with, pull hair, push, pull, hit, scream, bite etc etc. When we go out to groups or friends houses they often get into everything so I find myself up & down checking on them. I am exhausted with it & have been in tears tonight. I have been doing a mini-supernanny discipline technique but my boy just laughs at me whereas my girl seems to understand. I then tell them what they did waswont good behaviour & ask them to give the other one a kiss to say sorry. But, I am now thinking of changing the discipline to praising good behaviour & ignoring the bad. Has anyone gone through twin sibling rivalry? I am at my wits end with it!! I also have a 5 year old who Asks me to p,at with him but I often do not get the chance. Help!

Sorry for spelling mistakes...should read:
*was not good behaviour

• asks me to play with him

God, I could have written this post, no real advice but just to let you know you're not alone. My twins are abit older 21 months and we're trying to get them used to sharing, if they both want something oine has it for x mins, then the other one gets it. Mine aren't old enough to understand time out etc, the girl laughs and keeps on doing it as its funny and the boy just looks a bit blank. So yes I'm praising good behaviour and saying no at bad behaviour in the hope it will start to go in.

Its hard giving the 5 yo time, back from school we often play in his room, hoping the twins don't destroy everything and he pretends they are superhero or pirates etc.

Good luck

Snap! Mine are boy/girl and 15 months old. Was chatting to another twin mummy and her girls got better at 2.5 with sharing and not fighting as much. Sometimes I feel bad for wishing the time away. I too have a 5 year old and am constantly saying "in a minute" to him, bless him x

Hi,

My B/G twins are 8yrs and would love to say it gets easier.....but.....they still fight like cat and dog!!!! I feel like a referee all of the time! They are like an old married couple the way they moan and nag at each other! Lol

I noticed a big improvement around two when they could communicate better with each other. I'd like to say they never fight now (they're 5) but I'd be lying! They do play really well with each other about half the time and spend the other half arguing about the most trivial things, like who's going to use the toilet first.

About the age your two are at, we had a talk with nursery about not always intervening when they squabbled and it helped there and at home, letting them sort it out. Unless bloodshed was imminent!

My ID girls are 3.6 and we are just coming out of the fight all day phase. Yep I would say that for at least 5 mins in every 24 hours they don't fight!
Deep breaths they do grow out of it.

I thought of another plus, they never fought with other children at nursery/preschool. I always knew who the other child was on the accident forms . And they don't fight at school, I asked quite nervously at the first parents evening! I don't think their teacher had been asked that before.