13 weeks preg with momo twins and a 11 month old!!!

[3under2]

Hi all, am still in shock as our 11 month old was IVF we had hoped that it might have helped show the body what to do, but it went a bit on overdrive lol! Very happy, scared (about the momo and how will I cope). Most friends seem to smirk and laugh 3 under the age of 2, making me feel even better. Any word of wisdom or any one in a similar situation
Thanks all

What does momo mean?

And although I haven;'t been in your position, I think I'd be making sure the following was sorted out in advance:

1. If you can't drive, get that test passed now. It would be hell to use public transport

1. Save up enough money to pay for a cleaner for the first six months

1. be prepared to accept all offers of help

Congratulations!

Hi, I will be 13 weeks tomorrow (with twins - that they think are identical). I have been reading a lot online about mo/mo and while it is very rare I think your midwife and consultant will know what they are doing and talk you through everything that they are going to do. I also know what it's like to be "lumped" with three kids under 3.(I have a 2 yr old dd) and all the comments like "haven't you got a tv", "you're a mad woman" and my personal favourite "how the hell are you going to cope with 3 kids?" drive me insane. Although we didn't choose to have twins, I know I wouldn't change it for the world.

Hi,
I had 3 under 2 - DD was 18 mths old when DTs arrived. It was bloody hard work at first (in fact it's all a bit of a blur now), but we got through it and now we have 3 children all close enough in age to enjoy the same things and (on a good day!) have a great relationship with each other. We've also condensed the sleepless nights (at least the really brutal ones)/ nappies etc into a few short (intense!) years. I wouldn't swap our set up for anything (they're 5 and 3 now though).
Second the advice above about getting a cleaner/driving and accepting all offers of help. If it's an option, maybe try to get DD1 used to being looked after by other people (relatives/childcare depending on your situation) if she isn't already. I used to give DD1 main meal at lunchtime so I could just get her some toast when I was carrying colicky babies around in the evening. Think about how/where you want her to nap and do what you can to influence it now (my DD napped beautifully for a couple of hours every afternoon when the twins were little, but only in her cot, which obviously had huge advantages, but meant I was stuck in with fractious babies who'd have preferred to be out sleeping in the buggy!).
Happy to remember specifics about any of it if it would help. Sorry, I know nothing about the Momo aspect of it (just googled it as never heard the term before) so nothing useful to say about it - hope you talk to some professionals who can reassure you/let you know best plan to minimise risks soon though.

Same happened to me, first was ICSI, second attempt. Then 10months later b/g twins. So I have an 18month gap.

It has been hard work but so wonderful. Get help where you can, go to your local twins club. Brace yourself for all the silly comments. I kept my oldest in nursary for 2 days a week to give her some alone time and me a chance to sleep. Play groups were ok but I found some of the other mums condescending twats less than helpful, but twin club was brilliant.

Bulk buy nappies when they are on offer. Get people to clean and cook and help out whenever they offer.

Mine are really close and play really great together.

Hi 3under2 - huge congratulations. My ds was two when my twin girls were born and has hearing problems so comes with his own challenges. It is hard work but completely doable and enjoyable! My advice:

• don't expect it to be easy, there are easy days but there are also days where you are surrounded by pooing, screaming children and you haven't left the house for a couple of days and you just want to cry. Don't put any pressure on yourself to be supermum, it won't kill the twins to cry a bit and for dc to learn that mummy can't do everything. You won't have a spotless house (apart from those few moments when they're all in bed/before they're up).
• get dc1 into nursery and/of off with relatives/friends so they're used to being away from you for a bit.
• get a cleaner / mothers help for a little bit or take any help offered by friends and family.
• start an activity with dc1 that is just for you and them that you and dh/dp can continue post twins so they have some special time with you - ds does pony club and swimming and loves every minute if it when it's just us for an hour or so. Maybe there would be something suitable for younger ones
• the end of pg is really tough with a young dcl so make sure you have family / friends around to help then as well as post birth.
• ignore stupid comments from ignorant strangers. Mostly they're jealous and can't think of anything suitable to say.
• be prepared for a clingy dc1 - they can sense change.
• take care of yourself in pg, you want those lo's in there as long as possible.
• find twins groups on mn or rl - my mn group were invaluable to me
• Enjoy every minute with your new family when they arrive. It's been fantastic so far and we are only 6 months in. The girls love each other deeply, they have this unbreakable bond and if one is crying the other will scream until you put them together and they can hold hands, they both giggle up at you like the chuckle brothers with their dirty belly laughs and ds is very protective of them and will sit between them in the car holding their hands (he'll also completely ignore them from time to time!)

Don't panic, you'll be fine xxx

First of all congratulations! I think it's great to have 3 so close in age.

My dc was 8 months when I got pregnant with twins. They were supposed to be 17mths apart, but ended up with an even smaller age gap of 15mths.

I agree with what previous posters said, so not repeating what they've already posted. Just some additional thoughts:

As you know, with a twin pregnancy there is a higher possibility that doctors will tell you to take it easy od even go on bed rest. Not saying that this will apply to you and not wanting to sound negative, but I just found for myself that it helped to be prepared in good time. If you can introduce soeone as an additional carer for your dc1 early on, you have the peace of mind that he/she will be happy and well looked after if you can't do it all yourself. It minimizes everyone's stress levels.

Once the twins were born, I found to my surprise that I actually didn't so much need someone to look after dc1, but rather someone who couldtake care of the twins (and the household...), since dc1 really needed mummy a lot, while the twins didn't really mind whether it was daddy, babysitter, or granny feeding and cuddling them. And this brings me to the next point.

Do not let anyone, including yourself, pressure you into breastfeeding at all costs. It's great if it works for you, there are a lot of women who manage to breastfeed their twins and I'm in awe of them. But this is a time where you need to be pregmatic. It's hard enough with one baby, even harder with two! Add to the equation a very young dc1 who is almost a baby him/herself, you might want to consider freeing up as much as possible of your time for dc1.

Mine are still little and I can only base my opinion on our first year. But I find that if gets easier nowbthat the twins begin to walk and the weather gets warmer.

Congratulations again!

Sorry for typos. On my.phone.