Am I the only one who finds this hard??

[xkatyx]

hello everyone,

I have 12 week old identical twin girls!!

I'm finding them so difficult and today has been awful like most days if I'm honest!

They cry all the Time, I have been to the doctors and HV there on gaviacon I have made there feeds every 3 hours, I go out in the pushchair all day just walking around just for some peace and quiet but as soon as u stop they start off again :(

I'm exhausted from it I really really am, I can feel the tears building up as I write this.
I thought it would get easier the older they got but it's got worse as there awake more and web awake just cries cries cries. They only sleep for like 15 minutes at a time .. They have a routine which they have followed since birth at bed time the usual bath, milk bed.

I was walking up the school to pick up my other 2 dc and a mother who has twins (now 4) said to me god aren't twins easy her words exactly were "piece of p**s.
I said no not really I'm finding it a challenge an she just went on and on how she found it easy!

So what is wrong with me :( what am I doing wrong, I have 3 other dc and never had this :(

It is very very easy to forget just how hard those early days are, and some people lie because they think they are weak if they admit to finding things hard. There is nothing wrong with you having twins is boody hard work especially if they are unsettled.
Were you dt's prem ? Reflux and collic very common in prem babies even they were born at 36 weeks - something to do with the stomach muscles being weaker. If the gaviscon is not working GP should be able to prescribe something else as it dosnt work for everyone, have you tried infacol, dentinox etc aswell....? A cranial osteopath can work wonders with collic but can be quite expensive.

Do you get much rl support ? Family, friends, do your area do homestart ?

I really struggled early on and I only have the twins no other dc's, your doing a lot better than you give yourself credit for. It will get easier - hopefully soon.

Thank you, I have tried all the colic remedies they sell!! I'm not so sure it is colic or reflux causing the crying, I think it's being tired and they just cat nap no matter what I do!
But I could be wrong I feel useless in figuring it out.

My dh is fantastic but he works so so hard!

My mum is also brilliant she dies the morning school run if dh is working early shift, and she will feed one baby at dinner time for me whilst I cook and feed others.

Hi Katy,

They're really hard work and did that mother have 3 other children when she had her dts? Probably not so her life was a laugh compared with yours. Also to be fair some babies are just easier than others and I have had days when 2 dts have been less dreadful than one ds1 as a baby. To be fair I'm probably calmer this time round as I've been broken in already

I have days like this with dt1 but thankfully only dt1, dt2 is usually quite good apart from constantly vomiting. Have you tried dummies, comfort objects, white noise (dt1 was having a love affair with our kitchen extractor at that point) or putting to sleep on their tummies? Ds1 would never settle on his back and at 6 weeks my dps put him on his tummy and he wouldn't sleep for more than 15 minutes on his back after that but for a couple of hours on his tummy. I just had to hide it from the hv and pray there wouldn't be any bad effects.

Could you employ someone else to take them for a walk for 1 1/2 - 2 hrs every day so you could get a rest then? A neighbour who likes walking or a student? Everything seems slightly better on more sleep. Also if you can afford it is there any chance of getting a night nurse for a while or even a day nurse to try and help get them in a better routine? Also maybe try these people www.cry-sis.org.uk/ or the Tamba phone line 0800 138 0509 (freephone).

Good luck. I hope you manage to find a way to solve this.

Oh and no other twin mum in RL has ever said anything similar to me. The usual line is it was so hard or I was crazy to manage for so long w/out help.