Desperately need HELP!!!

[Tinks30]

I'm the mum of 11 week old (5 weeks corrected) id twin girls. I'm going out of my mind they constantly battle me at bed time. They go up at 6 for a feed. Then I try to put them down at 7. I have been battling one of my twins for nearly two hours and I'm exhausted. My partner is still at work so I'm on my own. I'm trying to put them down tired but awake but they both just scream the place down.
What did people do to get their newborn twins to sleep? I'm often doing bedtime alone so rocking them isn't really an option. Also they have reflux which disturbs them.
I'm at my wits end. I'm so exhausted.

Hi Tinks my twins are 19 months, those early days were hard and are a bit of a blur now. My OH also did alot of shift work so I was on my own at nights.

Have you propped their matresses up with a pillow - this helps with reflux. Do they settle in swinging chairs ? Might be worth a try for a few hours sleep.

You could also try putting your clothing in her mosses basket /crib so she can smell you. Or swaddling (my 2 hated it but other Mum's swear by it)

I think at that age I would feed them till they were asleep then put them down in mosses basket, I would rub DT's back and do a heartbeat tap till he drifted off lots of shhhhing. Then do a dream feed a couple of hours later before they woke up - brought me a few hours to sleep till they woke up again.

Before then I would just lie in the dark and let him sleep on me, but just try settleing him in mossess basket after each feed and we got there eventually.
Like I said it's all a bit of a blur but I do remember getting up at 2 in the morning and giving DT2 a bath which helped settle him abit after crying all night. I found trying to give them tummy time or a quick walk round the block before bed time used to wear them out. Baths also worked but hardwork on your own, so I tried baby massage instead.
Good Luck

It's awful, early days with twins. I used to go to bed with them, I had one who would feed to sleep and one who needed to be rocked vigourously. do was looking after ds1 so I was on my own too. if I couldn't rockdt2 on my shoulder whilst dt1 fed to sleep, then I would sing and smile at dt1 who was easily entertained whilst I rocked dt2 to sleep in my arms, then lie down, still holding dt2, and feed dt1. then, if possible I would grab an hour of sleep myself before easing out of bed and putting a pillow
between the babies.

do what you can, what works, and whatever maximises your sleep. the dts now happily go to sleep in their cots, so those early days didn't ruin anything.

it will get easier. hang in there.

Hello - mine started settling to sleep at 7 at about 12 weeks but before then it was taking at least 2 hours. One had reflux so it was quite horrible after the last feed. I had to hold him and had the other one in a chair or settling himself to sleep in his cot. Once I had one twin settled I could go back to the other if he hadn't settled. Sometimes I had to go back and fro several times. I was using moses baskets in the bedroom ad I sat with them in bed until they were asleep and then transferred them. Sometimes it took so long that DH got home and after a hard day's work had to hold a screaming baby.... But it eventually got easier and we had a few more minutes each night until I managed to do it all by myself by 7 one night.

I think the bath and bedtime routine helped us (maybe me more than them) and I did have a drink every weekday night after getting through it...

I'm not sure if that helps at all but as other posters have said it shouldn't be long before it starts getting easier for you.

In the early days we didn't bother trying to put them to bed upstairs until after their 11pm feed. They wouldn't settle and we just got more and more harrased trying to get them to settle. We used to let them doze in their bouncy chairs, then feed them and settle them in their cots and they would go 11-4 so there was a decent block of sleep. When they were about 20 weeks (10 corrected) we started a routine for bed at 7 and they took to it fine. They now go through the night no problems. I think when they're really tiny they're just not ready for a routine. It will all start to fall into place - good luck!

In the early days we didn't bother trying to put them to bed upstairs until after their 11pm feed. They wouldn't settle and we just got more and more harrased trying to get them to settle. We used to let them doze in their bouncy chairs, then feed them and settle them in their cots and they would go 11-4 so there was a decent block of sleep. When they were about 20 weeks (10 corrected) we started a routine for bed at 7 and they took to it fine. They now go through the night no problems. I think when they're really tiny they're just not ready for a routine. It will all start to fall into place - good luck!