Are people nosy about how you conceived?

[lipslave]

I am pregnant with twins, but not gone public yet as only 9 weeks.

When you announced to people, did you frequently get asked by virtual strangers if they were IVF? Mine are, and nothing wrong with that, but I do think it's a very a very rude and intrusive question. I can feel my hackles rising already.

What is the best way of responding? (without saying bog off and mind your own business

Get used to it! You will have to deal with all manner of dull, stupid and repetitive questions throughout your pregnancy and beyond. I don't think twin mummies are alone in this though. Also you will get lots of bizarre comments, like a friend of mine who had had a lot of problems conceiving told me that twins were often conceived in traumatic situations such as rape cases, which was nice. I didn't tell her that ours were conceived on the sofa.

On the plus side you will get lots of lovely, genuine, caring interest, like another twin mummy who approached me in a coffee shop when mine were 9 weeks old and told me how well I was doing (nearly made me cry), and the woman who randomly ran out of the butchers to tell me what a wonderful mummy I was, having just watched me manage to unload the twin buggy, both babies and the dog to go for a walk.

Try and think of a way of deflecting the question if you can. People probably won't be rude enough to ask you the same question twice.

Gosh I wouldn't even think it 4 close friends with twins 3 sets natural and 1 set IVF, but maybe coming from a family with lots of twins and twins marrying other twins I could be abnormal. I have to say several of them announced pregnancy at 12 weeks and then gave us the news about twins after the 20 week scan.
Your real friends will just be delighted for you.

People do ask. We just say there are twins in the family, often wanted to answer 'What's IVF ?" though
We don't get annoyed by it, we just think of it as a weakness in the person asking

Now we get "are they identical ?" all the time
Answers are
"Yes"
"No"
"Only one of them"
"Can you see more than one of them ? Have you been drinking ?"
"They were di-amniotic, so extremely unlikey, though not impossible. (Bet you're glad you asked now)"

people are just learning of me being pregnant with twins and overwhelmingly, they want to know "was it planned?" or "how did it happen?" which I think is the way they are asking if it they were IVF or not.

it is a bit rude, but I suppose, the surprise just makes them want more information, or they are just nosey.

At the moment I'm not stroppy enough and just head them off early saying that they are ID twins which is just one of natures little spontineities (sp). I'm sure it will get a wearing in the future and I'l get narkier!