Does anyone else have one very quiet self conscious twin and one outgoing almost show offy one?

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They're not tiny, they are 10 years old, both girls, non ID. This has been the case on and off since they were born but seems particularly bad at the moment, I feel my quieter girl is in her sister's shadow and it seems to making her withdraw into herself even more. My loud girl is much more popular at school, probably because she is more outgoing and friendly and I've started to see other people, friends and family, warm to her more, pay her more attention, because they get more back realistically.

Make me sad for my quiet twin though and I'm not sure what to do. I obviously try and boost her confidence and ask other DD to quieten down and let her speak etc.

Anyone else have this? The fact they are twins does make it worse I think.

I have similar - non-ID 9yo twin dss - one more sociable and sporty than the other. I do worry about one being in the other's shadow a bit, and I try and do the things you've been doing, like boosting the quieter one's confidence and shushing the louder one.

On a positive note, I have found lately that my less sociable twin actually has a steely will under his more introverted personality, and the outgoing one can be surpririsngly vulnerable in some areas.

I do think that they would have been like this even if they had been born singletons, but as twins its harder not to compare. I think I should probably do more with them separately, helping the quieter one develop his own interests and friends separate from his db, but it is really difficult to manage.

I have no experience as my boys are only small, but the only thing I can suggest is spending time with each girl alone, indulging their specific interest and boosting both their self esteems. They might be better in seperate classes at school if possible, but that will come with time as they move to secondary. Hopefully like everything else with twins it will just be another phase to get through

Yes, I have 6 year old non-id boys. They are very different. One is great at reading, writing, maths, loves school, is very coordinated and loves sport and always wants to try new things and has lots of friends. THe other one is quiet, shy, not interested in doing anything new and struggles at school. Most recently I have managed to find something that he enjoys which is a stage school on a Saturday morning but his brother goes too as I didnt want to leave him out. ITs very hard as it is almost like he lives in his brother's shadow and doesnt learn how to do things as he knows his twin will do it for him. I dont have any advice as I could do with some myself!