Making mummy friends

[BonfireBaby]

Hi I have 4 month old twins and over the last month or so have been venturing to baby group and baby yoga. I chat to plenty of mums there but having two babies to contend with, feel that I need to focus most of my attention on them and rush off at the end to get home for feeds. I'd love to make friends with some of the other mums and would welcome some advice on how to do this!

It's difficult, especially in the early days as all the things you go to, such as baby yoga, the other mothers have babies of a similar age so have their hand full - though not as much as you.

I would recommend going to a baby/tots groups. Here you are likely to meet second time mothers who have a 2/3 year old as well as a newborn. They are much more sympathetic to your plight (if you call it that), and there is also a lot of other mothers there with just toddlers, these other mothers often LOVE holding a baby for you for 5 minutes.

Alternatively TAMBA groups can be really good, as the mothers are all in the same boat and often when you go in another mother will come and help you unload the babies, and get their coats off etc.

Or perhaps at your last baby massage class (I assume it is a set block of classes) ask everyone for their mobile number and ask if it's ok for you to text them and arrange a meetup. Then arrange a time that suits you (ie when you know you are not having to ruch off to feed) and text everyone and ask them to meet you for coffee, or even come to your house for coffee. Takes nerve I know, but everyone with young babies is often very keen to make friends and would love to be invited for coffee/to your house.

Congratulations on the twins and I hope you make some friends soon.

Thanks Ginger very sensible advice

I second the idea of finding a local twins/multiples club. Everyone there has been in your position, and I know at our club there's always someone who'll take at least one baby off your hands so you can have a hot drink that's actually hot :)

I agree that it's much easier to be either at home or at someone else's house than 'out' - so whatever course or group you can possibly face going along to, definitely collect phone numbers and initiate a round of coffee morning/playdates... in my experience everyone is desperate to do stuff like this as we are all climbingthewallsathome in a similar boat and keen to meet people and fill up the week, even those with singletons.

You'll find once they're sitting up confidently things get a lot easier as it's more possible to plonk one down while you sort the other one. I have also just taken to giving one to anyone with a spare hand at that moment if I need to, without asking or feeling bad. If anyone minds they have never said so