12year old twins can't stand each other - advice please

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I'm new on Multiple Births and am seeking advice for my sister who is tearing her hair out about my DNs.
Does anyone else out there have teenage twins who genuinely don't like each other? Even if you don't, but could come up with some advice please answer my thread. I don't want to bore you all for the sake of it...I'll go into as much detail as necessary if anyone thinks they can help. Thanks for reading....
I reaslise the timing of this thread seriously lessens my chances of getting a response so I'll check it tomorrow too!

My mum and her brother are twins, (67 years old). They hate each other, always have done ^ always will. No reason other than they are so jealous of each other, they are both diabetic, uncle lost a leg years and years ago, mum lost a big toe a few years ago & SHE WAS SO HAPPY she was also an amputee! Honestly, i'm not joking.
Sometimes in life, you will meet people you just don't like, even if you meet them in the womb!
As long as they are not physiclly hurting each other, I would not worry.
Also, 12 years old? Hormones kicking in?
Good luck.

Are they girls? Total opposites? It's a hard age and I think if they were not twins and say siblings of a year apart youwould almost expect them not to get on but ad they're twins we assume they should be best mates. It's a hard age...

Thanks KayM and CharlieBoo I wasn't expecting any replies at this time .

KayM that really made me smile!

They are both boys and are definately total opposites and quite jealous, I think. Hormones well and truly raging in one DN but puberty not yet kicked in with the other .

My sister and I were talking earlier and debating whether it would be easier if they were both going through puberty at the same time to get it over and done with - in the end we thought that none of their family would come out of it alive if that had been the case.

CharlieBoo - you're right - if they were different ages it would be easier all round I think, they wouldn't be in the same peer group at school, for one thing. One DN said the other day 'It's like everyone at school thinks they have to pick one of us to be freinds with... and everyone picks xxxx not me. It's like they can't like us both or be friends with both of us'

Anyway, thanks for replying to my post, appreciate your comments. I will tell my sister about your mum and brother tomorrow KayM!

The latest one with my mum and uncle is, she has just had her catarachs done, poor mum.. Uncle now needs a pacemaker, guess who has just booked an ECG with her doctor? I kid you not.

Just had a thought about your DNs, do they have there own room? They might need some space / time apart.

Sounds like my twin brothers at that age. Came to blows quite often. They are so totally different from each other. They were, however, united in their taunting of me (their big sister ).

They still live near each other now and get on really well. They turn 40 this year.

Just celebrate their differences and knock their heads together if they are being arses. .

KayM they do have their own room thankfully. Your mum and uncle are hysterical (not to you, no doubt!)

manicbmc poor you! I think I might let my DS borrow my DD (aged 14) for some taunting team building .

Thank goodness for you insomniacs out there -
KayM for making me laugh (again) and manicbmc for giving me and my DS hope. I'll be telling her tomorrow that by the time they're 40 they'll be getting on like a house on fire . I think we both fear that they'll be the type of brothers who never bother to speak to each other once they've left home.