3 IN THE BED THEN ONE TWIN SAID ROLL OVER...

[valz]

Hi All, I have twin boys 14 months old and have a problem, one of the boys is in my bed every night. Its my own fault for lifting him in the first place but it is every nite now, ive just found out im pregnant, due in may and realised this cannot continue. The other twin rarely wakes during the nite and settles in his cot pretty quickly at bedtime, thats if he hasnt fell asleep taking his bottle, twin 2 on the other hand, if he dosnt fall asleep taking his bottle&i try to put him into his cot awake, he roars so i always end up lifting him into bed so he dosnt wake his brother until he falls asleep, i then put him in his cot, but every nite whether it be 11pm, 1am 3am without fail he will start rolling about the cot at some point winging and crying and again i lift him before he wakes his brother, i have tried waiting til he sleeps then returning him to the cot but he'll wake again. i dunno wat to do. ive found lately he has even started winging and cryin even when hes in the bed, last nite he done it about 3 times. Any ideas whats going on or advice on how to resolve it?

If you're really sure you want to keep him in his own bed and have him settle well then I would go down the controlled crying route.
He needs to learn to fall asleep with out being taken in to your bed.
There are a few different ways of going about it.
But very important is that you have someone else on hand to settle your other boy if he's disturbed and also to give you moral support. It could take 2 weeks before you see consistant results.
Do the boys share a room?
What I have done in the past is rather than leave the room and leave them crying, I stand near the cot not making any eye contnact and wait till they settle of to sleep. There maybe lots and lots of crying and at times you may have to pick him up to calm him down a bit but as long as he's not hurting him self allow him to cry, and eventually calm down and go to sleep by himself.
Repeat this as required till you can put him down and leave the room and he either cries for a v.short time or is able to settle himself peacefully.
If they are sharing a room could the good sleeper come out of that room for the nights that it takes to train other on and sleep in travel cot else where? i.e your room, spare room