Presents

[katedan]

I have DT's who are nearly 4 and have been invited to a number of parties over the next month or so. My question is do you take a present and a card from each twin to the birthday child or just a present and card from both? For the birthday last year they mostly got a present and card each from people which makes me think they should take a card and present each but DH thinks it will cost alot of money!!

I am watching this one as I'm having twin girls in 6 weeks.

I would think take a card and a present each, if they were different ages and going to different parties the total outlay on presents would add up to the same

No one will think you are mean if you just do a joint one - there are twins in DD's class and they just brought her one present and I didn't think twice about it. After all, there's only one mum and one purse. And have invited siblings sometimes to parties who have done joint presents. Might be different when they're bigger and not always invited together, I guess.

My opinion is that a joint one is fine, like you would with siblings of different ages who had both been invited. In fact, I think it would be quite unusual to give a present from each child, neither of my DS's have had separate presents from children within the same family even though they would have all been invited - it's not necessary.

I think I would do one card and a slightly bigger present than you would from one child.

Yes, I think I agree with Eglu!

If they are both invited I would expect one present and one card signed by both. Of similar value to what a single child would bring, not double.

(I speak as a mum who doesn't have twins though, but I have just had a set to my daughters party and this what they did and what I would expect).

Def not mean, normal I think and all the kids have a lot of stuff on their birthdays by the time it gets to party throwing age.

As the parent of a singleton, I would be surprised and a little mortified if twins turned up bearing a present each.

I have a friend with twins and know how expensive they are. Buying two cots and two sets of clothes and two bikes and two cricket bats so on until they're 18 is bad enough - definitely only one birthday gift!

I've done both but I think there is some merit in separate presents as I'd like people to buy two pressies for my DTs so what goes around comes around....Price doesn't have to be an issue as I got two very small pressies. I think as they get older it's one of those hard but important little things that can help them achieve their own identity.

Our DTs are 6 so we're regular party goers. Whether we get one or two presents depends on the child whose party it is and what they want. Nobody really minds between one slightly bigger present or two smaller ones. Cards, though, are stupidly expensive & get binned within a couple of days anyway so I just keep a pack of A4 card in the cupboard and the DTs make their own.

I would probably take 2 presents as I don't like people lumping my dts in together as though they are 1 person so I would feel a bit of a hypocrite if I then did it to suit myself.

As has been said, if they were 2 singletons you would have the same outlay for parties etc, just spread out a bit more over the year.