How can I help my friend ?

[pompadourprincess]

Hi lucky ladies of mutiples
My friend has just found out she is expecting twins however she already has DC's of 1.3yrs and 2.4yrs plus a school aged DC .. so that equals hardwork any ideas of how I could help or ideas on just managing the day to day workload.
Thanks in advance and p.s I always wanted twins but had 3 singles , my mum is a twin so that was y I had hoped. Maybe I will be a grandmother to twins probably be better as I can then hand them back

How about help with the school run? Some days dd1 and I didn't manage to get dressed until lunchtime so managing to get 5 children out to get to school on time would've been a major challenge!

Also, how about taking the toddlers out to the park etc so your friend gets an hour to sleep/shower/eat?

The usual cooked meals/load of washing/etc would all be greatfully received I would think!

Good luck to your friend, twins are fab!

taking the older kids out - agreed.

I will take the younger 2 out in the day but I have a 2.8 and 6 yr old they go to different schools than hers and a fair way apart so I couldn't help with the school run. Your right though that will be the biggest challenge I hope she will be able to get another friend to do they school run will check with her

Make a variety of meals (bolognaise, fish pie etc) and portion them into individual portions (chinese takeaway containers work best - even better plastic ones that can be microwaved) and fill her freezer with the meals. Means she will have nice homecooked meals for the first few weeks at home when things are the most hectic. Stops her living off toast which is what I did.

Offering to take a bag of washing home with you and return it to her later (even a couple of days later) cleaned and if you are feeling very indulgent, ironed.

Great idea about the meals when DC3 was born he had horrid colic and for the first 4-5 months I lived off chocolate and takeaways maybe why I weigh now more than I did pregnant full term with a 10lb 1 oz baby inside

Definitely food. A friend of a twin mum is one who comes round for a quick cuddle of the babies, loads the dishwasher and leaves a lasagna in the fridge!

Could you set aside some time each week to do some houshold chores for her? When my twins were small (also had 2 year old), if someone had come for an hour or so once a week, done a load or two of washing or run the hoover round, I would've cried with gratitude. Seeing the cr*p piling up around you and not having the time or energy to sort it out is really disheartening.

Also thumbs up to the cooking idea - a friend bought us, completely unexpectedly, several meals during the first couple of weeks after the twins were born - I did cry with gratitude at that!