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OliviaGrace · 28/05/2005 00:40

Do muslim men wear wedding rings on the same finger christian men and women do?

The reason I ask is because I have met a lovely muslim who is taking me out possibly tomorrow but I noticed he wears a ring on the same finger a christian man or woman would wear their wedding ring! Please, is he married or not!?!

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kama · 28/05/2005 00:43

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OliviaGrace · 28/05/2005 00:47

i have asked but he says he isn't. I have known this guy for ages. I have his number and he has mine stored in his phonebook on his phone. He has invited me around to his house for dinner tomorrow, but I dont wanna be met by some angry wife lol!

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stitch · 28/05/2005 00:52

why would he invite you round to meet an angry wife?
if it is a date, then there will be no angry wife, because if he is cheating on her, he wont introduce the two of you.
in islam, men are not allowed to wear gold. but as we all know, a great many do. the ring symbolises nothing with respect to islam. it may be a cultural thing, or it may simply be that he likes the ring, and that is the only finger it fits on.
but if you dont trust him enough to give you a straight answer, then dont go to his home, as there may be other weird stuff to worry about
hth

OliviaGrace · 28/05/2005 00:56

r u muslim stitch?

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stitch · 28/05/2005 00:58

yes

OliviaGrace · 28/05/2005 01:17

once I went out with a muslim man and none of his friends knew about me, definately none of his family knew about me and whenever we went out to the cinema or something he would never walk with me for fear of someone seeing us and him being shamed.

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stitch · 28/05/2005 10:09

i bet that did lots for you r self confidence!

i think what you are dealing with here is a case of culture rather than islam. i know lots of muslim men with wives who were non muslim before they got married. and i know even more muslim girls who got married to men who werent muslims before.
i think you should just follow the usual rules. for example, if a man is ashamed to be seen in your presence, then he is definitly no good for you. and if you dont feel you trust him enough, then dont go to shis house alone. for all you know it could be him and his friend s waiting for you, iyswim.
sorry i didnt reply last night as had to go to bed.
if i can help further, then just ask

ricecake · 12/06/2005 10:48

OliviaGrace - I agree with what stitch has to say on not meeting the man at his home. If you can't even trust the guy, why go to his house ? If it is the first time you are going out with him, then ask to meet in a very public place, i.e. a restaurant or coffee shop. I would never go to a man's house on a first date, nothing to do with whether he is a muslim or not.

Also for the benefit of any non-muslims reading this, there are millions of muslims in the world, as there are millions of christians, jews, hinddus, etc. Would you have asked the same question about the ring if he had been a hindu or taoist or buddhist, etc ?

Sorry, but I don't want any prejudice created here. How a man wears his ring has absolutely NOTHING to do with his religion. Even in christianity ther has never been a relgious edict by the pope or other religious authority on wearing wedding rings. The way most weddings are celebrated (white dresses, etc) and rings are symbolic, and have not been set down in religious texts or by religious authorities.

Also stitch, you say Islam forbids a man wearing gold ? Could you please give me a reference for this ? I haven't read the Koran cover to cover, but I come from a muslim country and have never heard of this edict before. Most muslim men I know wear some kind of gold, either rings or chains.

nutcracker · 12/06/2005 11:14

Just wanted to add that I wear a celtic band on my ring finger and i am not married it just fits best on that finger, so that could be the case with him too.

Chyla · 13/06/2005 17:24

It is true about what stitch said about the gold, ricecake, I have heard that too, although most of the muslim guys round here do wear it....bling bling!!!

happymerryberries · 13/06/2005 17:48

And not wearing a ring doesn't mean anything anyway. DH has never worn a ring and he is married!

Nightynight · 13/06/2005 17:49

German people wear their wedding rings on the right hand, so its definitely not a Christian tradition to wear it on the left hand.

ricecake, I think its a perfectly normal question to ask about rings, whatever religion the guy (or woman) is. Ive just removed all rings, as I am divorced, and I didn't want any confusion.
Must say, I wouldn't go to a man's house either - it does give a message that you are prepared to sleep with him.

hatstand · 13/06/2005 17:56

surely any married man who normally wore a wedding ring and who was after some extra-marital action would remove said ring?

Nightynight · 13/06/2005 17:58

ha ha hatstand, no they dont always. Why? because it takes the guilt off them. "Oh, but you knew I was married all along..."

Halzer · 14/06/2005 11:56

Ricecake...

If you are interested, there is a Hadith which says
" Gold and silk are lawful to the women of my Ummah and forbidden to the men"
I agree that you see alot of Muslim men wearing gold. Even my father-inlaw, who is quite religious, gave my husband a gold ring on our wedding day, even though he know that men shouldnt wear it???

stitch · 14/06/2005 16:50

i agree with halzer about the hadith. its in sahih bukhari i think, though might be sahih muslim. a lot of men do wear them. just like anything in religion, its upto the persons own faith to decide what they wish to follow or not.

CoteDAzur · 31/03/2007 18:44

First time I heard of the "no gold to men" thing. [I am technically Muslim (born so) but non-practicing]. Millions and millions of Turkish men would be VERY surprised to hear that one.

Flowertots · 29/04/2007 15:46

Hi
Am new here.

Before I got married I always wore my ring on my wedding finger simply because it was more comfortable and as someone previously mentioned, it has no significance in Islam. Am right-handed and wearing it on the left hand made more sense-less chance of it snagging etc. and getting in the way.

I wouldn't worry about the ring. If he was a non-Muslim, all he would have to do is take off his ring to deceive you if he wanted to. Ask all the questions you would do normally and I'm sure you'll be fine.

jaleel · 21/02/2008 20:42

been a practising muslim women my husband and i do not were wedding rings it is nothing to do with islam that is from the cristians.not that man can not were rings he can if it is silver and not for wedding or engagment as we do not have these coustoms

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 19/03/2008 13:35

My husband is muslim and he wears a wedding ring (silver) Many men in Morocco wear silver wedding rings, and women all do as the gold rings are part of the engagement contract.

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