hello,
Not sure if you will be able to relate to this but some of you might. My parents are originally from pakistan, and I was born and brought up here. I have a peculiar relationship with my parents, I can talk freely to my mother and argue with her/share problems. But with my father there is a respectful distance. I couldnt really have a 'personal' conversation with him, eye contact is minimal...thats just the behaviour we have learnt - presumably from my mother...
Anyway, my dad is old, and in the past few years I have come to realise what a sincere, good and noble man he is. I love him so much I could cry. Yet I cant show that to him. We dont hug in our family and we dont say affectionate things: would cause embarrassment.
My mother, I like less and less. She is bitter and quite cold. I avoid visiting because Im not welcome by my mother and brother who lives there. Yet I miss my dad.
My question is this: For a year now I have been trying to pluck up the courage to write my dad a letter to let him know how much he is loved by me. But I am so embarrassed. Would he be awkard in my company afterwards?
Is there any way I can word it so as to cause less embarrassment?
will post this in multicultural too..
thankyou