english husband converted to islam caused a lot of tension

[beeny]

Both my husband and i are professionals he converted.I am a practising muslim.He gave up alcohol eats halal meat and occasionally prays.This caused a lot of tension from women at work.Any opinions from anyone

What sort of tensions? Any examples that you could give? Why did he tell them he had converted or how have they found out?

They found out because everyone knew i had never had a boyfriend.I had been in some arranged marriage setups which had not worked out.I used to be the agony aunt for single females at work.He was considered a catch

hi beeny, do you work at the same place then?

Who is the the tension directed towards?

OK, you work together? So is it jealousy from the other female workers? Is it directed to you or him? You haven't really explained the issue very well, sorry. Is the issue him being a muslim or him being with you?

I'm sorry you are getting grief over this. A colleague of mine got together with another colleague who converted to Islam for her. Caused a few raised eyebrows but nothing else - his parents were more of an issue.

Has he converted recently?

Another vote for none of their business here.

Happened sometime ago but still bugs me anger was towards me.One of the girls liked him but they all ganged up against me even the ones i had spent hours advising over crap boyfriends

They are jealous. You are obviously much nicer than they are and that is why your "catch" of a husband picked you.

it is none of anyone else's business.

However, unfortunately Islam is often a religion that provokes a negative reaction in people, because a lot of bad things have happened recently in the name of Islam, and the papers rarely feel the need to publish anything good about it.

A friend of mine converted to Islam 13 years ago and he was disowned by his entire family and lost most of his non muslem friends.

It's not right, but unfortunately a lot of people view converting to islam as suspicious due to what is printed in the press.

You just have to ignore people's attitudes, or try to let them see that not all muslems have potential to become radical suicide bombers.

Thanks for your support but it was very disheartening to think girls only liked me when they thought would be married to a safe asian man. I had done nothing to encourage my husband to be to be interested

They are obviously very shallow and has been said jealous. Ignore them and rise above it.

Thanks again dont want to sound like a whinger but made me question human nature.I had always been so supportive of them.It never seemed to be an issue about Islam but why would someone convert for me.

Sounds more and more like jealousy then. They obviously think your dh is gorgeous! Lucky you!

I agree that is's none of their business. They are jealous and probably confused that your dh chose you over them (footloose and fancy free) but that is more about their own ignorance than about you. It is a shame when people you think were your friends turn out to be anything but. If you and your dh are happy then try to ignore them.

Thanks for lovely messages know you are right but still shocked at how they behaved.They are all highly educated women

Perhaps they are also highly competitive and can't stand losing. You are being a gracious winner so keep it up

I can understand why you would be upset. I used to work with some women that were incredibly bitchy and it really got me down.

Thanks for being so kind. Are you not suprised at people behaving like this, or perhaps had never experienced real bitchiness as had never had a boyfriend.

I am not surprised but am always disappointed when it happens. I always used to try and keep on the outer edge of these bitchy circles when I worked in an office. I found no-one was immune to it - snide comments. It's amazing how some woman behave over men and if the man they fancy happens to fancy you be prepared for retribution and complete character assasination (sp - lots of sssss??).

Great name - sums up how I've been today

I have sort of switched offices and am back part time at the moment.I have lots of male colleagues and i really enjoy their company.I should wear a headscarf and no makeup that would make their day (only joking)one of them did ask how it was i was allowed to wear makeup.