Why people stare!

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I can't figure this out, I have two boys ds1 4 yrs and ds2 8 months. We live in a mixed area, people of all races when I am walking down the road with ds1 no body seems to stare too much (unless he is doing some mad Spider man thing!). But when with ds2 people always stare at him and them me and back again. I want to shout from the roof tops "HE IS MINE!!!!" What I think it is is that ds1 is much darker than his baby bro so he obviously looks like mine, but ds2 I think had all his skin colour (hair included) stolen from ds1 he is very very pale and I think people think I am the child minder or something!
It doesn't wind me too much it gets to my mum more than me, she gets really offended and almost starts arguments which can be really embarassing!
Anyone else experienced this at all. There are no solutions but its nice to moan!

yes Sallystrawberry they're stunning kids alright!

I always find it amusing when either dh or I are in a shop or somewhere else where we're not known. People always assume we are not together no matter how close together we stand. Especially if I join him when he's talking to a counter person I always get funny looks as though I am invading his space and another server asks if they can help me.

Definitely no wheelchair so it may have been the friends of your that you mentioned as they did have two girls who looked about 3! They were beautiful children as well.

We live about 5 minutes walking distance from Secrets so we're always taking walks around the back of the grounds....

Try being mixed race and bought up by white parents! I was in Jamaica one day, and someone told me to stop begging from my parents! People are just nosy and ignorant sometimes!

My ds gets alot of stares when out all good as people say about his looks light skinned with blue eyes & blonde afro but strong west indian features other kids brown skin dark hair brown eyes all mixed race the only prob we have encountered with his looks are a few kids frm old school wouldnt believe ds when he said dad was black cos of him being blonde with blue eyes they didnt consider his tanned skin & facial features they had a shock when dp picked kids up one day . They never argued with ds about it again but ds loves his looks now & teases his sisters by saying look at my hair its like mums ect

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here are a couple of ridiculous ripostes to ridiculous questions:

The sperm bank made a mistake with the genes I wanted.

The hospital gave us the wrong baby but we are suing them right now.

I'm just going to add my 2p worth to the growing list!

I was a nanny for about 10/11 years and in doing so I have looked after blonde, blue eyed swedish children, mixed race children, of various mixes! Asian and black children and somehow someway every single child was alsways assumed to be mine! I was always hearing "Are you being good for mummy?" "Have you just got the one?" etc..

I am a fair skinned black female, people do assume I'm mixed if thats anything to go by, but I find it all quite funny!

I am due in 4 weeks and my partner is blonde haired everywhere!! Blue eyed and yummylicious I wonder all the time what our baby will look like! I hope its not sods law and no-one thinks that baby is mine!!!

To be honest though, I'm not the type to have things like that bother me in the slightest.

Tamala, my wife is black and i'm fair white with fair skin and blonde hair. I was told that I wasn't to provide her with a ginger baby, cos mixed race ginger baby's have no fun!

Oi, HD, I'm a mixed-race redhead and I've had a LOT of fun in my life!

Sorry, didn't mean to offend. Blame my dw!

you want stared at? a few years ago my mate came to stay with me and dh, we had ds1 who was about a year old and i was pregnant with ds2. she had a little girl about 10mths older than my ds1. my dh is black, i am white, my mate is also white her dd is also mixed race.
so we all went into town one saturday. me pushing ds1 and heavily pregnant. my mate pushing her dd, and my dh walking with us.
THE LOOKS!!!!!!!!!!
one bloke even stopped dead in his tracks, looked at me, my belly, my pushchair, then at my mate then down at her pushchair, then into dh's eyes, and grinned at him and gave him a nod, like oh well done mate type of thing!!!!
we were laughing for about a week!!!!!

Tee hee 2pworth!
dp is mixed (1/4chinese, 1/4 black caribbean, 1/2 asian) and i am white. ds looks white and our neice (jamaican dad)is dark. Many a person working it out when we're all out together! I love it that we're unusual looking, but can see how it gets others annoyed. Scary story with pc bonehead tho!

People used to stare at us when our kids were young. We have 4 very close in age. DD was very blonde, DS1 had mousey brown hair and the two youngest dss had red hair (one auburn and one more of a strawberry blond). DH used to be blond but is now mouse & I'm quite dark. I think people will stare at anything

We also had a situation similar to edam's. My father took me and my children to Bristol Zoo. Mum was at work and DH had been left at home. All around the zoo people kept staring at us, and it was only when one of the ds's called out "grandad!" and I heard a woman next to me say "aha" and almost breathe a sigh of relief, that I realised they were all looking at us as if this old boy had got together with a young girl (& I looked a lot younger then ) and they'd had all these children. I was so embarrased that I spent the rest of the visit regularly telling the children to "ask grandad" in a very loud voice.

You are unusual, intereesting, worthy of attention

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