wtf am i supposed to do with all these indian sweets? aibu

[pukkapatch]

i dont know anyone who likes the things. yet asians always seem to send these things round on any celebratory occasion.
i;ve just been handed a carrier bag full of cut price jalebi, gulabjaman and two other things, i dont even know what they are called.
no one in my house likes these things or eats them. none of my friends like them. expecially not the crappy cheap ones. so why do people still send them round?
a box of chocolotaes would have been appreciated. the tradition is something sweet. so why dont they think first?
aibu?

They are delish. Whenever someone has a birthday/event at our work, usually, a box of ambala are brought in and WOW!!!

Sorry pukka - this is of no help to you, I know....

you are a wise one greeny.

thanks for listening to me all of you. i already feel much better. calmer and saner.

although i may be back in a couple of days stressed out again

I can't say I detected any 'you're a racist' undertones on this thread ..

As usual, Crooky comes out with some useful insights into multi-culturalism. There are good sweets and there are shit sweets the world over

I'm sorry you're going through the mill, pukka. Deep breaths, eh?

I love indian sweets, I used to get given hundreds when I was a teacher.

The cheap ones are vile.

Families are very odd. Bin the sweets. Coo over the baby. Avoid the in laws.

It was the "are you unhappy in a multi-cultural marriage" remark that needled me. I didn't think the OP compaining about being landed with a carrier bag full of crap sweets suggested cross-cultural disharmony. Sorry.

Ah, when I stayed in India our neigbhour would always knock on my door sharing gifts of the most wonderful food and sweets.

Sorry Pukka you are having a hard time with your family. Please try ignore their scheeming and game play, just be you and enjoy the new baby. Get something nice from Mothercare, and let them take it the way they want.

Oi GS you're always wanted

Greeny, the OP was posted in the Multi-Cultural Families section. That's why I asked.

You're easily needled, lass.

that's true, I am easily needled

I am now going to crave Indian sweets all night !!

Dh would take delivery if you want to get rid of the sweets - he used to be addicted to them (now live too far away from any suppliers, thank heavens, they were not good for his waistline).

Sorry to hear your ILs are such miserable sods.

lol greeny. you are most definitly wanted!
i posted under the multicultural topic as i though id get more responses from peole who understood the cultural aspect, and i wouldnt haave to explain myslef so much.
but i love greeny's phrase' -loony manipulative IL behaviour transcends all cultural and racial boundaries.'
and soo true about chocolates from marks compared to lidls.

This family thing is strange strange strange....but I have to say, I'd rather I didn't get anything at all than cheapo sweets as that would make me more offended...like they are all oh I'm bothering with a gift, but look how crappy it is.... Or maybe that's just me!!

You should see it in the Middle East! Serious ettiquette (sp!) to be followed!! Much agonising over best shop to get pastries from for ladies coffee mornings, what cups to serve the coffee in, chocolates for leaving oh and the fruit! Has to be splendiferious array of all things fruit (Gillian McKeith would have orgasm)to show esteem for their guests...

Since I'm always a guest...I have no problem with this

PS

You can get amulets on-line....buy one...go around and say oh my lord that's the most gorgeous baby I've seen EVER and then when they start to hyperventilate, take amulet out and present sweetly......

Oh I'm naughty!

Second the amulet thing.... my son wears his all the time and he is 20 months, still going strong.

Love the Middle Eastern comparison, Turkey is exactly the same.

pukka - just wnat to say you are not alone with IL woes. They can really be gits cant they.

thought i'd update you lovely ladies.
dh hasnt said much about new nephew. i mentioned getting him a present. and he says to get something, but better quality than mothercare! i asked what did he mean by that?
he doesnt actually seem that keen as i think he feels we gave rather a lot when first child was born 18 months ago. but i think i'll just let him decide and go with the flow. i think we shall be seeing the baby on sunday.

better than mothercare... seems a little weird. How about some money and they can put it in the bank or pool all the money baby gets and buy a bracelet r something.

my mother in law freezes them, and them pulls them out when we have visitors, it goes down a treat!!