I am a first time mum and my son was born in May. I have issues with my MIL I cannot shake off. Here is a little run down
First time I met her for dinner she took no interest in me and I pretty much sat in silence while she chatted to my bf about people only they knew. I have been in a relationship with my bf for nearly 6 years in Feb and she only took interest in me when I announced I was pregnant. Before that she has had a photo of my bf and his ex, ex, ex gf in a heart shaped frame in her home (this was only taken down when I was pregnant). She is now taking an interest in my job, the fact I can speak another language because I am Chinese. I knew she would have preferred my bf back with his then ex tall and blonde. As she bumped into her years ago when we were just dating and asked my bf would he get back with her.
She is only interested in her children and grandchildren, outsiders such as myself and her son in law. She openly says in front me and my partner when she (her daughter) gets rid of him (son in law). It’s because she wants to be needed. She talks about her SIL and shit stirs and I know she is doing the same with me.
So since being pregnant constantly asking when I am going back to work, even though I have told her. She has already asked to look after my baby when I am at work (all whilst I am STILL pregnant) At least allow me to give birth and spend time with my baby. She can’t wait to get her hands on him. But as I am breastfeeding she has to be around me.
When he was a few months and he was starting to develop his features tell me she thought she looked like her other grandson who has two white parents. He has distinctive Asian eye yet she still says he looks like my partner. Who has also said he takes after me.
She is also now considering moving a 2 min walk from us which will mean she will be around all the time.
I am due to go back to work part time in Feb and I need to start considering what to do with the BF. He will have to go on formula as he is going to nursery and that will mean she can have full reign over my baby whilst I am not around and she will.
This is I know the irrational part but I have to say it. She is going to take my baby away and he won’t love me and our bond will be gone.
I hate MIL so much because she is fake, selfish as she constantly wants to break lockdown to see us even when one of the other grandchildren had to self isolate when she had spent a while day with him. Feel her encroaching and trying to tighten her grip on my baby. I hate her with a passion but I can’t say any of this to my partner.
Any help would be much appreciated
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Anonmum101 · 27/11/2020 11:31
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