Can a couple last when families don't like each other

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I've been with my partner for 9 years and our son is 10 months old. Our families have had feuds - I don't speak to his family and he doesn't speak to mine. The families also dislike one another. This is only since the baby has been born. It is causing problems between my partner and I and we are on the verge of permanently separating. This is not what I want. Does anyone have experience of this and making their relationship work?

Thanks x

Could you see your own families separately?

Keep your families apart as much as possible. No real reason for them to mix.

Tell each family you're unhappy with conflict and want to start afresh. Make an effort and see each family separately if that doesn't work.

Hi @Fairylea, I'm happy to do that but partner is not as he's from a very close Nigerian family. He wants me to be close with them but I don't see that being a possibility due to what's gone on. He is basically saying you can't be close with my family so we have to seperate.

It can work if you agree on who you hate and why, if you both mutually hate each other's family , don't agree on this and don't support each other avoiding then, then you are doomed as a family
You don't say what the issue us but there seems to be mistrust and dislike and cultural differences. Unless there can be a big meeting where everyone can hug it out and move forward to be more understanding each other then you are doomed to fail.
I wish you luck but I'm not hopeful sorry

Hmm that’s difficult. Dh and I never liked each other’s families but we both accepted it and would take dc to visit each on our own and just wouldn’t talk about them much in front of the other. If your dh isn’t happy with doing that it makes it a lot more difficult.

Why do you hate his family if you are in love with their son?