Not eating pork

[SahmOldSameOld]

One of the few practices of my faith which I observe is not to eat pork, and I do not give my 4 yo DD pork to eat either.

How do I best explain to my DD why she can't eat ham sandwiches like the other children at birthday parties?

To confuse matters, DH is not of the same faith and does eat pork...

Wait until the party bags start rolling in. Haribo contains pork gelatin doesn't it?

I know I am late in this conversation. I just wanted to know what you told your daughter op?

Just a piece of advice: don't tell your child that you don't and they can't eat pork because it's a dirty animal, or things along this line. Maybe pork meat was unsafe to eat in certain circumstances once upon a time, but this is not certainly the reason why you shouldn't be eating it nowadays. Besides, in some cultures, different types of hams were invented in order to preserve the meat safely for very long stretches of time. In certain countries, like Italy, ham it's given to sick people at the hospital. So scaring them with the idea that ham or other pork meat is unsafe and unsanitary is nonsense and will one day come back to you. Moreover, they might go around their friends repeating this "dirty meat-dirty animals" mantra (it's happened to us) which won't be very nice for their friends to hear and might hurt them, or your children might feel confused if one day their pork-eating friends tell them that is totally safe to eat pork. So if you want your children not to eat meat, tell them that it is your religion and culture, but don't blame it on the pigs. And like all of us from different culture should do, teach them to embrace their culture without imposing it on the others or shaming the others on its base. (hence, let your husband eat pork and let your children know they will be able to decide what to do about it once they reach a certain age, if you like).

I m a practising Muslim. I like the idea of being clear and simple. i.e "mummy and daddy has different religions.... every religion has a number or rules to follow. . " I feel it s difficult to instruct the child to follow one and not the other or not be free to make choices. On what basis you have decided for 4 yo DD to follow your religion's rules and not the father's... you have your reasons.. the child need to be explained.. perhaps " mummy and daddy agreed that you ll follow some ( the best of) rules from every religion or you have decided it's better to follow such religion first.. then read about the other.... something like that.
However.. I also re- inforce the idea of what really matters for you in terms of being a Muslim and what is common between you and your husband , these are the things that should be " over" emphasised among the family. Last point is respect to the wider family culture ( visiting in laws) that's a complicated idea, can be introduced later on . I prefer to separate culture from faith with my children.

This is not a "ridiculous this rule" because pigs are the dirtiest animals that eat EVERYTHING dead or alive including their own poop or poop in general. And in other animals what the eat is flashed out of their system in 24 hours but in pigs that doesnt happen for more than 40 days. So eating an animal that ate its poop just recently is ridiculous. Jesus didnt eat pork, and lots of his followers dont eat it too. Actually in Islam every animal that eats meat is not ok to eat. If an animal eats grass then it is ok to consume.

What a lot of tosh Alexa

I'm a vegetarian and my husband is not. I feed my son only a vegetarian diet and husband doesn't mind because in our house, he largely eats just veg too.

My son is still only 14 months old so it'll be a while before he gets a say. I would generally say you are not born with religion and so your child should not be forced to follow those rules. However for reasons of practicality, i can see that you are in charge of their diet. I don't cook meat for others either.

However maybe you should discuss with your husband. Maybe say 'no pork in the house' as to not tempt your child? I not unreasonable to ask it. What is your husbands view on what your child should eat?

Fyi, my vegetarianism is not religious but merely a lifestyle choice. However, i'm going to have to deal with your issue sooner or later too.

My kids have just accepted we don’t eat pork, I’ve never had any issues and they don’t want to eat it and don’t ask to (I should add that I’m not Muslim though) but I wish people would stop giving out haribo in schools, Is it so hard to give something that’s vegetarian that all kids can eat!

Type in YouTube what does the bible say about eating pork ( ). Tosh is what people that eat that become. You obviously dont know this but Jesus didn't eat pork

I would be wary of sharing your weird false information with your children @alexa. If they spout that crap at school you may find other children don't want to be their friends.

OP don't say its dirty, thats not nice if she says other children's food is dirty at school. Also pigs are quite clean animals when kept appropriately, they just like to use mud as sunscreen. Also highly intelligent, a much better reason not to eat them.

Just explain you are Muslim and don't eat them as part of your religion. Speak of it the exact same as if she asks why you are praying, part of your religion.

@Alexa1313

Type in YouTube what does the bible say about eating pork ( ). Tosh is what people that eat that become. You obviously dont know this but Jesus didn't eat pork

I've been eating pork for decades and I haven't become tosh, whatever the fuck that means. And did you really just share a video by Abu Hamza?

Anyway, I'd imagine the OP has figured out what to tell her daughter in the past eight years.

How can you be married to a non Muslim, when that's against our deen. Its hypocritical to not want your daughter eating pork, while also going against your religion

@1990b

How can you be married to a non Muslim, when that's against our deen. Its hypocritical to not want your daughter eating pork, while also going against your religion

From one Muslim to another, go do one with your judgmental views.

The child’s 12 now so I expect they’ve sorted it out.

Sister please understand that you can't be married to a non Muslim. May Allah make yours and your daughter's affairs easy

Why are you making your dc observe Muslim practices, is she actually Muslim given your dh isnt? Or would she decide later, in which case pork isn't an issue ?

Oh my word, a zombie thread from 2013.

Interesting.

@Alexa1313

Type in YouTube what does the bible say about eating pork ( ). Tosh is what people that eat that become. You obviously dont know this but Jesus didn't eat pork

Well if Big J didn’t eat it. I’m out.

So much ignorance on this thread.

Maggots are fly eggs. A fly had to have been in the fridge and lay it’s eggs on the pork.
Even if that happened it’s unlikely fly eggs could hatch in such cold temperatures

Dont eat pork if you don’t want to but there is nothing inherently less safe about it than other meat prepared and stored in the same way

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