Wedding Gift How much?

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DH and I have been invited to the evening reception of one of his work colleagues- there was a note in the invitation stating the happy couple would like donations toward their honeymoon in lieu of gifts- How much is appropriate? I have never met the bride or groom, second time for both of them-without sounding judgey they are 'well off'

Dh is thinking £100 am I a meanie to
be thinking less? We are 'well off' too I guess

God - if you're just invited to the evening do then £25 tops in my book especially as just a work colleague.

In fact - I'd just get them a nice bottle of champagne.

Although if 'well off' means millionaire - perhaps a couple of bottle of champagne

£100!!!!!!!!!!

I am with Tracey, no more than £25, possibly less, or nice wine. You don't know them and you're only going to evening.

I agree that £100 is way too much if you're only invited to the evening do!

I would give £50.00 as a compromise.

(I hate people asking for money in lieu of gifts though...)

I'd take champagne too, let them pay for their own honeymoon if they want one. Very cheeky to ask for money, they may as well charge an entry fee.

We got married last year and gifts ranged from nothing up to £200 (from non-family members). Average was about £30 per couple for all-day guests. The only evening guests we had were some former work colleagues (who had a collection for me all together) and the parents of a friend of mine who I bumped into when they were dropping my friend and her husband off at the wedding and I said 'come back later for the party', so they just sent a thank-you card afterwards.

For an evening-only guest I think it's fine to give anything at all from nothing to a card to £20. £100 is a lot I think. When we were earning lots more £££ living in London we would give that for an all-day invitation but we wouldn't do that now. £50 for an all-day invite is what we would give. £20 or a bottle of champagne is generous for evening-only.

FWIW we are comfortable financially. The couple who bought us a £200 gift for our wedding are millionaires!

Will they be feeding you? If so the price of dinner for two sounds good to me.

I was always told that you should give roughly what it cost them (hosts) to have you there. For example if it was dinner, dancing and a free bar then maybe £150 - £200. Sandwiches in a local pub and pay for your own drinks then it might be £20 at most.

I'm giving my best friend and his wife £50. Our guests who gave us cash (we didn't ask for cash) tended to give about that. No one except very close family gave anything like £100 and I'd have been a bit horrified if they had.

Of course it depends entirely on how rich you are and how rich the bride and groom are - if you're all millionaires by all means buy them each a spare Rolex.

God, for evening only and you don't really know them, I would do max of £25!

£100 seems alot. I agree with others nice bottle of fizz or maybe nice picture frame something that is hard for them to put an exact price to.

It is hard when people ask for money - I know lots of people live together and so have 'stuff' already, but if they have what they already need why not ask for nothing....

as a rule of thump I usually give roughly how much the meal would cost. minus a bit for colleagues plus a bit for family...

£100 for an evening do?!

He's insane.

You're not even getting a meal!

£25 max.

I hate people asking for money instead of gifts. Tacky beyond belief.

love the "rule of thump" - great term!!

£50 max. . .afterall only work colleague not close relative.

WE do £25 for evening and £50 for the day. but id we are close i make them up a huge hamper and spend more.

We recently got married and didn't ask for any gifts at all. We did get quite a few gift vouchers, I'd say the average was around £40 for day guests, but I wouldn't expect anything at all from an evening guest. £100 is way too much!!