My dh has been in a very stressful job for past 2 yrs and has often felt he isn't able to cope but has remained dedicated to his position and knuckled down.
Last week he was told his competence for his position was in question and is now facing a disciplinary.
He now feels he cannot continue in this postion even if he is given the chance to as really he has given it everything he has and now they feel it is not enough, he has nothing left to give.
I am worried for his mental health as for past 2 years he has been under so much pressure and it has really affected him, now this has just broken him. He cannot sleep and is all over the place emotionally.
We have talked about him offering to take a demoted postion where he would be able to build his confidence again bt his involves a huge salary drop. We would only be able to manage this with the tax credits/child tax credits but would it be likely that for the first year we wouldn't get any help if they take last years income as the basis for award?
I have read the bit on their site about having a large drop in salary or increase of 25,000 then they will look at current years but it is very vague.
Anyone know more about this or have experience of this.
We have 3 kids all under 5 and i am sahm.
Thanks and sorry so long.