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CSA please help.

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xkatyx · 17/02/2010 19:19

Hello, i don't know if i am on the right thread, i hope so.

Does anyone know how the CSA work's? my husband has a 10year old daughter from a previous relationship and recieved a letter about it today.

We are both very worried and don't know what to exspect or what the CSA take into concideration when working out the payments.

please any advice would be really appreciated.

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coldtits · 17/02/2010 19:25

they will take 15% of his income.

soyouthinkyoucandance · 17/02/2010 21:53

Doesnt matter what debts you have they dont care. Also your income will be taken into account. They also can review payments each year and take into account salary increases etc...

We have also been told that it will continue if the child is in education until they are 19....personally it is better for us that my hub and his ex sorted it out between themselves much cheaper for us and less stressful.

Can they not come to some agreement between themselves?

JeMeSouviens · 17/02/2010 22:09

They won't take into account your income, only your DH's. Like CanDance, DH and his xW have a private arrangement and it works well.

soyouthinkyoucandance · 17/02/2010 22:20

when my hub got made redundant and had to sign on CSA wanted to know my income

Seriously if you can come to some agreement privately. We pay dd each month so have "proof" just incase any anomosity later on you never know!

bubblerock · 17/02/2010 23:41

Do they not take the partners income into consideration anymore? They did when I first got together with dh a long time ago, was an awful time, very worrying

pithyslicker · 18/02/2010 00:15

They do not take into account your income for CSA. But if you have children as a couple (and he doesn't have to be the father)that is taken into account, and the ammount of overnight stays is brought into the equation.

look at secureonline.dwp.gov.uk/csa/v2/en/calculate-maintenance.asp

pithyslicker · 18/02/2010 00:18

ammount amount. And it is 15% of his salary after deductions for one child as a start.

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xkatyx · 18/02/2010 19:47

Oh my goodness such a nightmare, thank you all very much for the information. it's all very complicated!!

his daughter is 10 years old and his ex and him were a on?off relationship when she was born all was fine, when they broke up she said she wasn't his. and refused him to have his daughter or see her.

My husband went to courts and because she didnt want any money off him and was saying she wasnt his there wasnt alot he could do.

5 years later out of the blue CSA letter comes in demanding 15% of wadges .. me and my husband have alot of debt and 2 children and find it hard as it is, they are asking for 330 a month i cant understand anyone who could afford that???

also she is still denying him rights to see her, can she still do that?

The ex is a nasty piece of work and will love the thought of us not being able to afford anything, we are trying to contact her to see of we can come to an agreement but she wont reply to us.

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xkatyx · 18/02/2010 20:16

APPOLOGIES FOR THE DOUBLE THREAD I DONT ACTUALLY KNOW HOW I HAVE DONE THAT LOL

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soyouthinkyoucandance · 18/02/2010 21:41

Do you not think you should demand a DNA test beforehand knowing her past history of denial

So very sad for the child and her state of mind when she grows up - I know I have been there and it screws you up

MrsFlittersnoop · 18/02/2010 21:53

Ok, don't panic. Given her history of denial that he is the father, you must insist on a DNA test to prove paternity.

If he IS her father, then she has no rights whatosever to deny access, unless there is a provable history of domestic violence or emotional abuse.

You MUST talk to a lawyer ASAP to sort this out. You will need to keep/find proof of all her denials of paternity, your DH's efforts to establish access and your unsuccessful attempts at mediation/discussion in the past. Emails, texts, letters etc.

So sorry to hear you are going through this. My Ex-P has always been a total star regarding maintenance and access, even though he was a crap DP . It really annoys me to hear about women who mess around decent blokes and their DCs like this.

Good luck!

Ivykaty44 · 18/02/2010 22:03

all you have to do is ask the CSA to get a DNA test done - they will actually do the test.

Then you will have to pay 15% of the wages to the resident parent of the child. It is 15% for every non resident parent with one child, but if the non resident parent has sc living in the house with them - then they will take a small percentage off the amount for each child.

If the child is your dp he does need to be paying maintenece for the child.

contact with the child is always a seperate issue, if access is denied then he neds to take advice and action to get contact to make a relationship with the child.

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xkatyx · 18/02/2010 23:03

Thank you so much.

I would say she is 100% his child she looks so much like him. But a DNA will stop all the sillyness on her behalf.

Unfortunetly there isn't much evidence we have letter's or emails as she refuses any contact what so ever. But we are going to dig out what we can. we have also made an appointment to see a family solicitor so that if we do eventually get to talk to her we will know what we are talking about.

I really hope that we can see her, she leaves about 5-6 hours away from us so we can't pop over to see them. we dont even know there address.

i feel the same, i dont understnad why woman do this, surely your child and there needs will always come first and taking your father away can never be good for any child.

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Ivykaty44 · 19/02/2010 10:23

you don't need to dig out any evidence - just send the resident parent a letter (recorded delivery) that you would like to start contact,

state that at first you would like to travel to the childs home town and meet for a drink for an hour, this will give you a short time to get aquanted, then to visit a few more times before asking dc to visit your home town for a day trip, out line a type of agenda for visits.

then leave a note in the bottom, just say e owuld like to hear if this is sutable in the next two -three weeks.

photocopy the letter and sit and wwait.

if nothing happens then you can go to a solicitor and explain you have tryed to instigate contact and heard nothing.

if though it comes off there will be no need for expenisve solicitors bills - ust petrol and time.

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xkatyx · 24/02/2010 16:55

I think we may of come to abit of luck with his Ex, we have come to an private agreement, BUT she said she in not cancelling the CSA she will keep it on hold, basically a threat if DH doesnt do what she wants. can she do this?

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