thanks all, and I know many of you making very sensible suggestions.
We have been out for a drive, past said property
blu like I said in earlier post, chilcare costs are actually becoming less for us now, due to changing hours when I go back, with similar pay but less time out in the week. DD is virtually self sufficient at 13 and ds now in full time school, so chilcare wise we are better off than we've been for the last 4 years IYSWIM
the house we like is empty, and need some work (inside, nothing major) which may enahnce our bargaining when dealing with the agent. Its been extended already and is the kind of thing we could improve over the years and would make a womderful family home, we could stay there til we're 80
however we are mindful about the pittfalls, if dh lost his job, would he get another? The difference at 12% is double again so would be 2k pcm .
Moving to a cheaper area from where we are now is a step backwards
moving somewhere to extend, in where we want to live, also not really viable as most of them are on new housing estates (apart from this one) so minimal space in either direction
Council Tax would maybe be one band different, but we are already 3 bed detached in good area, next to area we would like to move to.
I see what you mean about the stamp duty, but unless we bought another house virtually the same as ours, we're gonna have to go up to the 3% bracket
dh is going to speak with his father this week to see what he thinks, he's very good with looking at the worst case scenario and is happy to say just what he thinks, and dh trusts him and the decisions he's made so guess will wait and see.