Me and ex P split up at the start of the year. We have a 2.7yo and a 10mo old. He had been abusive and aggressive to me for a long time and I decided to end it. Since we split I have involved the police 3 times and he has been cautioned for harrasment (verbal and via phone / text).
However he is calm with the children but I am coming to the end of my tether trying to get him to see the dc's regularly. Last month we agreed on Tues & Thurs bedtime, Fri afternoon, Sat afternoon, Sun morning and bedtime, he lives close by. He has blown his top when I have had to change a couple of visits as me and the children have had another appointment that we couldn't change and we were running very late from an outing another day. He went on holiday for a week and I just kept my mouth shut, I appreciate that as he's single he does have a life of his own. He doesn't think I should ever do anything else on the times he see's the children in the week, but once in a blue moon something will crop up.
We had attended Relate when still a couple and I wanted to try it again at the start of the year - he refused, I saw a family mediation counsellor and solicitor to find out how we should agree when he can see the children - he has refused to go ahead with family mediation.
Now I have been told the CAFCASS might be able to help, has anyone used them? I really don't know what to do next, and also want to do everything possible to keep the peace, make sure the dc's stay in touch with him NS cover my backside and make sure he doesn't think I'm keeping the children away from him.
That was longer than I expected, sorry, my brain is a bit frazzled as I have a lot on my plate at the moment!