Any mners with legal know how who can advise me about my sister please and her ex

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lil sis split up with her of 10y 3w ago, just 3m after getting engaged. well, he split up with her. went to stay at "mates", no explanation, just said he didnt love her anymore. she has stayed in the house, paid all the bills and the mortgage and he's not given her a penny. she went away for a week and bolted the door, which he then kicked in and she is having to replace. last night he was in the house when she got home, just watching tv. she asked him to leave, he wouldnt. eventually i went down there with dh, so did his mum to try to mediate between the two.

we went to CAB last week and they said that because he left the home and hasn't paid toward it she has possession and he cant just come and go.

he is saying that he was told that he could come and go as he pleases, half the house is his (1 bed so they cant share)

where would she stand? getting house valued this week and she is going to try to buy him out.

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Are they married? Is the property in joint names? Are there vhildren aged under 18, in full-time education?

It's quite possible he has as much right to stay there as she does.

they were engaged with no kids (thank god) the property is in both their names.

Well, if the property is in both names, he does have as much right as her to live there, I'm afraid. Is your sister any further forward with getting the place valued? Will he be co-operative about selling his half to her? Would your sister be amenable to him maybe buying her half?

he cant afford to buy her half, but they are getting it valued next week. she is going to bank after to arrange mortgage (hopefully) its just such a mess!

There are worse messes than that lol! I take it they're both being quite sensible about this, then? Are they both still living there, and who has the sofa?

he walked out and is staying at friends. but now he is saying that he has to leave there, so he will get the sofa. tis v uncomfortable. shame for him

Perhaps he and your sister could alternate, week about, on the sofa? If she wants to buy him out (assuming she can get the mortgage) there's no point in antagonising him. He could still make things difficult for her.

if she can buy him out then great, or they should sell , split the equity and start afresh elsewhere, i would see financial advisor, and lawyer if neccesary.

unfortunately bought the house last year s no equity. they will have lost money on it at the mo.

she has just bought a new bed so refuses to let him anywhere near it.

getting a tad worried about her tbh, this has hit her really hard. not sleeping/eating taking ad's and st's etc

thank you. we are going to see a solicitor tomorrow re legal aid. and to sell her rings