My dp became a SAHD last May and has been brilliant at looking after dd and keeping the house. He seems to be enjoying it but we do have one major problem which is that we now have very little money so I need him to be able to budget and spend within our limits.
When we were both working we had seperate accounts and paid into a joint account for mortgage and bills etc. He had his money to spend (gone within a week or so) and I had mine.
Now after paying bills etc there is just enough money for food and a few small extras if we budget carefully. But dp just wont do this and we are going to start getting into debt if we are not careful. I tried explaining to him about menus and planning meals (not day by day but have a weekly plan to pick and choose from it IYSWIM) but he says that he likes to decide on a day to day basis. I try planning the meals and buying in the food (he comes with me mind to do the shopping) which is no prob for dinners but hard for brekkie and lunch as Im not around then but I cant do this all the time as we have too many other things to do at the weekend and he hates going shopping in the evening and it still doesnt stop him going out and buying other things during the week anyway.
I have tried transferring the remaining money after bills into his account monthly (he spent it within two weeks...mostly on food mind not crap he is a bit of a foodie) Ive tried giving him money weekly but he gets in 3 days of food and thats the money gone.
We now have about £100 left for the rest of the month (get paid on 26) and have no idea what we are going to do. I am worried sick by this but he doesnt seem to think its a problem cos he honestly thinks that Ill be able to sort it all out and everything will be fine but I cant do that anymore. I need him to take some responsibility here. The worst thing is that he really wants us to eat well and loves treating me and dd to nice meals so I feel really bad complaining about him like this.