Got a letter from the Children's Reporter.... any advice/experiences.. any help very gratefully welcomed, am terrified....

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Long story. Basically had a row with dh 2 weeks ago. Had enough of him and told him I was leaving. Packed bags and got kids ready etc... He saw I was serious about it and started shouting and swearing and slamming doors etc... Ended up him saying, "if you're going, go now" and me leaving with my handbag, 2 kids and dog and nothing else. Was in a proper state so went to police station looking for phone number for women's aid. Got persuaded to make a statement so they could go and bring him in to give me time to get my stuff packed properly etc...
Made statement then left police station with womens aid worker who was brilliant. Meanwhile DH took overdose and drove off... airlifted to hospital, spent weekend there then next 7 days in psychiatric hospital. He is now out and I agreed to give it another try if he gets help with his depression.
First thing monday morning, social worker on the doorstep and now have letter from children's reporter requesting further info... Am totally freaked out and don't know what should be doing to help the situation and get them off my backs. Any advice/ experiences very gratefully welcomed.

I don't think you should necessarily be trying to get them off your back, they're there to help you and the children. I don't have any experience but well done for going to Womens Aid.

hi www.
sorry didn't mean to sound hostile, just want to move on. feel totally let down by the system. it just feels like another thing for me to deal with.
so glad i went to womens aid - they're great!!

Anyone else know the system?

Why do you feel let down by the system?

Oh no, sorry, I didn't mean to imply you were hostile, sorry if my post came across that way, I was on the phone and typing at the same time. I hope some of mn's social workers come along soon and can give you some more information. I suppose I wanted ot say they're there to help you as much as anything and if you'be been in an abusive relationship then some professional help might be a good thing.

Just googled and got this - the aim of the division, it says, is "provide a safety net for vulnerable children and deliver tailored solutions which meet the needs of the individuals involved, while helping to build stronger families and safer communities".[1]

unknown - feel letdown because I have just been left to get over it on my own. Have had no support for me or dh unless I fought for it. I want to move on now, want help for him to fight his depression etc.. help for us to sort out our relationship problems and help for me to build my self-esteem and help me to decide what I want for me and my kids.
There doesn't seem to be any help for any of those things, only this children's reporter thing.
My kids are not in danger or vulnerable. I would never let our home situation get to that.
WWW thanks for the link, will have a look

It's sadly too often the case that you don't get support early enough.

This might be the opportunity to get some support for you though.

My dh is really knowledgable about SS and SW's but he's at work atm.

Like others have said, they are there to help you, not to take your children from you or anything horrid like that.

They will make sure that you are getting the help you need and that you are all ok.

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Hi Dilemma
Thanks for your advice - and your butwhy. Makes me feel a bit better. I just feel so paranoid that now I have to be a model parent just in case they turn up. I know they are just trying to help the kids but it feels like it's me under investigation and it just feels like one more thing after the failed suicide etc.

Anyone else had any experience?

anyone?
Aparently they had 58,000 referals last year so someone must know something!!