Can anyone help or advise

[postinginnewname]

My daughter split up with her partner nearly 2 years ago, mental abuse from him involved. They
have a 3 yr old Ds.

No contact for the first year from dad then court letter for contact order, she agreed contact every other weekend but arrangements through her partner who lives with her as ex abuses her if he has her phone number.

Contact took place last weekend but ex brought son home early said he wasn't well but he was fine.

Today my daughters partner has had a stream of text messages and phone calls from the ex abusing him and calling my daughter names, this started at 5.30 this morning.

What can she do? her partner no longer wants to be the contact for ex, but the court order says he is, do we involve police? she can not afford to keep going to court as wont qualify for legal aid.

Sorry its so long but any suggestions please.

Get her to keep a record of the texts and calls, write them down and keep it up if it continues.

Thanks Beaniesteve, she has saved all the texts that he has sent and written down the times.

not sure if this would apply or not, but as I understand it if you warn someone to stop contacting you abusivly etc and they carry on you can report them for harrassement.

it's prob worth talking to your local police station/officer thou, this would also help in any cases re contact etc for the future - maybe contact centres are the way forward?

either that or get a second cheapy phone give x that number, (as a short term measure i'm thinking here) and turn it off unless the child is with x.

Thanks for the replys.

New partner politly asked that ex call at a reasonable hour, but got a load of abuse as a reply

We think ex has been drinking, my daughter bought this up in court but ex got a letterfrom Dr to say due to illness (crones) he can't drink, but he does and that was the reason he was so abusive in the relationship.

Seems ex waited for the court order now he has it he is starting again

seems to me then court might be the only way forward. but talk to your local police officers,

Thanks DTM I think police as well, dont like the thought of my Dgs going to his dad if he is back drinking.

as I say in that instance contact centres might be an idea, althou I know nothing of how they work. but it's my understanding that the child is dropped off by a family member see's the 'absent' parent then goes again, and is supervised by impartial people - weather they do reports etc I don't know thou, costs etc again I don't know - but that and a different number might be a way forward?

not sure if you need a court referal or something thou?