Holiday finances for a kind of blended family

[Needshelp90]

Hi, how do people generally deal with money matters when it comes to holidays with their partner and partners kids?

Partner has 1 teenager. I have no kids.

The few holidays we have been on we go 50/50 but due to other things im starting to feel taken for granted. Booked our summer holiday last week and I paid my 50% like it was just expected, not a conversation (or a thanks from what I can recall).

Appreciate I may have already set the standard now, but was just after some general thoughts and how others work things, or even approach the topic with their partner.

We don't live together or share finances in any way. Im the higher earner.

hes a cheeky sod. So you are paying half the cost of his child via the flights and hotel room

and all in one room ? Where’s the privacy for you all ?

really need a 2 bed place /a joining rooms

It wouldn't bother me if I could afford It. You earn more. You will make memories and have experience bigger than money. Teens not earning so cant contribute. If you love them enough to spend time in one hotel room....dont make drama over whether its 50/50 or 66/33. I would feel different if he was the higher earned but you are.

Why should @Needshelp90 pay more as she is the higher earner

they don’t live together. Don’t share finances - not sure why she needs to share the cost of his child

Higher earner and no kids??

He's a user. Sorry.

Life is great solo travelling.

You just have to take that leap..

Why are you with someone who is using you, taking advantage of you and you're afraid to bring it up in case it causes an argument?

Can you really not see this is why you are ripe to be used and abused?

He knows this.
You don't even live with him but are nervous of him and he is controlling enough that you have gone along with it.

Is this really all you think you deserve?
A user that you are afraid to challenge?

Why on earth isn’t your partner at least offering to pay for his own child. It’s not like he can be oblivious to the fact that you are funding him, it just suits him to keep quiet. There needs to be a conversation.

I wouldn’t go on any holiday sharing my room with an unrelated teenager. I would not be able to relax. And paying more to do so. I think that is absolutely mental.

I think it's a bit unusual to go on holiday with the child of a partner you don't live with or share finances with TBH. And especially to share a bedroom. Do you tend to spend a lot of time at his house, how long have you been together? Sharing a room with a teenager who isn't your child is odd

Find it bizarre you share a room and bizarre your paying for the child to.
Fair enough choose to pay for meals or something but not so much of the holiday part