Secret bank account

[ameliaj1993]

Does anyone else have a bank account they put money into secretly for if anything happened which resulted in separating from their partner.

I was made to feel really guilty about it by a family member but I just see it as safeguarding myself in the event that me and my partner were to separate so I could set myself up in a new house or adjust to being a one income household.

those who are married and have secret accounts - if you get divorced do you have to declare it in your financial order

so you may end up losing half your savings ?

or if in own name it doesn’t count ?

Why does he check your account when you both have separate savings accounts? That seems hugely controlling.

“Secretly”

not really if you’re telling people @ameliaj1993

Do you contribute to the mortgage and bills etc?

Why is he checking your spending? What’s his reason? Does he share his with you? How does your partnership work financially? If you have separate finances and are not married then why does he need to know what accounts you have?

I certainly would if I was in the OP's position and had separate finances but my OH insisted on poking through the details of mine, and it would be as secret as I could make it. As it is, although DH and I have joint finances I have some savings that he can't access and he was surprised that I insisted on making sure that he had something similar.

No, we pool all our wages but we still have our own bank accounts and personal spends so we each save some for ourselves anyway, it’s not a secret but not visible to the other either. It does seem a bit odd to me to need ‘secret’ money?

TBH I earn a lot more than my DH so I’m not the one who needs it, I’d be able to walk away tomorrow if I wanted. Maybe he has lots stashed away just in case.

It it's a lifeboat fund it'd be spent long before divorce was looking at asset split.

Surely the response to a man like that is to leave?

That’s a good point @Bromptotoo