Hello I am unsure where to turn at the moment and am looking for some outsiders views and advice. I was with my DD father on and off for 10 years since I was 18 years old, we lost a baby girl in 2023 and was blessed with our rainbow in June 2024. My DD is now 18 months old and I split from her father a year ago when she was 6 months old due to him assaulting me and being charged with domestic assault. Despite this I did not want a non harassment order as I grew up with an absent father and I wanted to try and give him a chance to co-parent and have a relationship with our daughter. I tried this all year with multiple failings so finally after a lot of emotional turmoil I finally decided to cut contact with him and myself and our daughter as I need to put our peace and wellbeing first. He works as a self employed scaffolder and only does casual shifts here and there so does not have a steady full time place of employment. He uses money as a form of control and power and he sees things as a pay-per-view situation. I only receive financial help if he gets to see DD. All year I have had sporadic payments here and there and I did go through CMS at one point but he lies about his income and has also stopped working completely before so he didn't have to pay. What I am feeling is I would rather wash my hands of him and his family and I would rather have nothing to do with him and I do not want any of his money. I am currently going through the process of changing her surname but he is on the birth certificate so I do have a solicitor handling things at the moment but my question is should my feelings of pride and not wanting anything to do with him or have any money or help from him at all as he doesn't want to help, should this override the fact that DD is inevitably being impacted by this as I will obviously be financially struggling compared to having a bit of financial help from him. Should I embarrass myself by going through CMS and getting told ill get £7 a week or something? Should I just leave it and work my ass off myself for my girl? Thanks for reading xx