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Just about managing-anyone else?

12 replies

Ginghamgail · 29/11/2025 16:19

Hi,

so first of all I’ll start by saying how grateful I feel that we’re able to pay the bills etc. I know that isn’t the case for everyone right now, however it feels such a bloody struggle, DH and I have 2dc’s aged 4 and 7.

we both work in professional fairly well paid jobs, and yet we just about scrape through every month with little in the way of treats or fun money.

does anyone else feel like this?

OP posts:
ShanghaiDiva · 29/11/2025 16:24

Judging by the frequency of this type of thread it appears many posters feel this way. What are you looking for on this thread- advice, empathy..?

pocketpairs · 30/11/2025 19:46

Care to share a breakdown of your finances?

Bjorkdidit · 01/12/2025 06:47

ShanghaiDiva · 29/11/2025 16:24

Judging by the frequency of this type of thread it appears many posters feel this way. What are you looking for on this thread- advice, empathy..?

This. But empathy won't change anything. It's frustrating how many people 'just want to have a moan' or have people agree with them that 'it's the government's fault' yet don't seem to want to do anything constructive even when, going by the information posted, it's very likely that they could improve their finances by a noticeable amount.

Because, for the majority of people, excluding those who's income won't even cover their essential costs and those who have so much money they could spend endlessly without running out of money, in many cases, the biggest difference in how far their money goes is how they manage it because there's significant savings to be gained by shopping around and tweaking what you buy. In many cases, it can be literally hundreds of pounds a month, with little noticeable difference in quality of life.

OP, you say you're both in 'professional fairly well paid jobs, and yet we just about scrape through every month with little in the way of treats or fun money', which doesn't really sound likely given that your DC are old enough to be past the age where childcare takes all your money.

I'd guess that you do have you 'treats and fun money' and it's going on things like living in a nice house in a nice area, lunches and coffees at work, an above average grocery budget, car leases, utility, mobile and broadband bills that are higher than they need to be, activities for DC, etc etc.

On the off chance you do want to do something constructive, have a look at:

rofessional fairly well paid jobs, and yet we just about scrape through every month with little in the way of treats or fun money.

Statsquestion1 · 01/12/2025 06:50

What is your income vs outgoings?

unlimiteddilutingjuice · 01/12/2025 06:56

I think everyone feels that way right now OP.
The other day I was at the self checkout and, when the total came up I accidentally said at loud "OH God, why so much?!"
Bloke next to me said he felt the exact same. Then he added "Not just about money either. About everything" 😂

Bjorkdidit · 01/12/2025 07:04

Sorry, cut and paste fucked up the link, was meant to be:

https://www.moneysavingexpert.com/family/money-help/

curiositykilledthiscat · 01/12/2025 08:00

If you post some details of your finances then we can help.

Could your mortgage repayments have gone up over the past few years and that’s what’s causing the stress? Seems to be a common theme on here.

FastTurtle · 01/12/2025 18:27

Completely normal for the stage of life.

Tryingatleast · 01/12/2025 18:33

Bjorkdidit

This. But empathy won't change anything. It's frustrating how many people 'just want to have a moan' or have people agree with them that 'it's the government's fault' yet don't seem to want to do anything constructive even when, going by the information posted, it's very likely that they could improve their finances by a noticeable amount.

Thats because people tell them to cut everything so far back- people have been told to get rid of all subscriptions, stop eating or drinking out, and have their kids stop hobbies, and as someone who lives that life I’ll tell you it’s miserable and if anyone is in a decent job they should be able to have their kids have hobbies, they should be able to have the odd coffee or eat out sometimes and watch something other than what you find on the player or YouTube!! Those of us who simply exist and don’t even have pence to spare wouldn’t recommend!!!

Higglea · 01/12/2025 18:38

Impossible to say without knowing income/outgoings - I know lots of people who are overextended on lifestyle and suffering now, but others who maintained a buffer are not. Of course everyone’s buffer can be thrown by an unexpected event, job loss, illness, bereavement etc, and crazy housing costs and childcare are affecting everyone. You’re in the peak of it OP, but if you post some details people on here often have great suggestions.

curiositykilledthiscat · 01/12/2025 18:45

@Tryingatleast I disagree - people are advised to cut their cloth or / and increase their income. Nobody says don’t do any fun stuff, just live within your means, which some people struggle with or can’t be bothered to,

Bjorkdidit · 02/12/2025 04:47

Tryingatleast · 01/12/2025 18:33

Bjorkdidit

This. But empathy won't change anything. It's frustrating how many people 'just want to have a moan' or have people agree with them that 'it's the government's fault' yet don't seem to want to do anything constructive even when, going by the information posted, it's very likely that they could improve their finances by a noticeable amount.

Thats because people tell them to cut everything so far back- people have been told to get rid of all subscriptions, stop eating or drinking out, and have their kids stop hobbies, and as someone who lives that life I’ll tell you it’s miserable and if anyone is in a decent job they should be able to have their kids have hobbies, they should be able to have the odd coffee or eat out sometimes and watch something other than what you find on the player or YouTube!! Those of us who simply exist and don’t even have pence to spare wouldn’t recommend!!!

Well unless the OP has misrepresented her situation, that level of frugality is unlikely to be necessary.

What we're all talking about is things like making sure you're on a cheap deal for utilities, broadband and mobile phones.

Cancel subscriptions thar you don't use - many people have several streaming subscriptions and only watch one or two.

Plus there's deals available, we've just signed up for a year of Paramount Plus for £35 so a good saving over £8 a month.

Buy your coffee from McDonald's instead of Costa or make it at home. For non perishable groceries buy on special offer not full price, try own brands or Aldi & Lidl instead of Tesco & Morrisons. Eat seasonally. Eat pork or turkey or vegetarian meals and instead of beef or lamb.

National Trust membership can be excellent value for days out. Use vouchers if you eat at chain restaurants. Keep nice frozen pizza eg Crosta & Mollica, which is as good as nice wood fired pizza in the freezer instead of getting a Domino's delivery.

Switch your bank account for an introductory bonus. Use a credit card for all normal spending for rewards and to manage cash flow for free in a way that is beneficial to your credit record instead of using an overdraft that costs 40% APR and your bank sees as poor money management.

Budget for annual and irregular expenses so you're not living month to month.

Etc etc. Can make a huge difference to how far your money goes. If you CBA doing any of that while complaining well more fool you, you're throwing away hundreds of pounds a month.

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