My husband said he wants a divorce, I need an urgent job!

[Richesme]

We had an argument over something silly and he said he doesn’t wanna carry on anymore. I’m moving out but need an urgent income, I don’t actually have a career. The job I apied to previous rejected me, I don’t know what to do, I have a toddler but I don’t want anything from him because his a prick.

How long have you been married? How old are you? What qualifications and work experience do you have?

Bit of a severe reaction to a silly argument - has he behaved like this before?This time of year you could look into retail because you are likely to pick up flexible shifts to help you work around your child and going into Christmas shops are often on the look out for temporary staff - same goes for the postal service. Then, when the dust has settled, you can think about how to reboot your career and whether or not you need to retrain or gain more experience to get your foot properly on the ladder. You say you don't need money from him, but don't cut off your nose to spite your face - if you need money for your son then not only he is obliged to provide that, if you don't find work quickly then you may not have an option.

You have a toddler. Unfortunately unless you are very very wealthy in your own right, you don’t have the luxury of not wanting anything from him because he is a prick.

See a solicitor and secure every penny you can in the divorce because your toddler will need you to have money to support you both.

This is the worst time to let emotions like “he’s a prick” dictate your moves. Which is why you pay a solicitor to make the moves for you.

You sound in panic mode OP.
Yes you need to first take legal advice on your rights if you seperate.
Then approach the task of finding a job for yourself that will fit in with your life.

OP, you sound like you're really stressed. Take a little time before you make any decisions - calling your toddler a prick is a bit worrying and suggests you need a bit of mental distance.

Calm right down. And don’t make any silly, ill-thought-out decisions.

If you leave, and plan first, you should want money from him, because that’s your child’s money.

Calm, steady, sensible planning is required.

Is there more to this op? Like previous issues?

Care will take anyone with a clean record.

@justalittlebitofrain op wasn’t calling her toddler a prick!!!!

You need to take whatever money from him you can-because he’s a prick. This is about your child.

She was calling her DH a prick not her toddler 😅

You absolutely do need to take child maintenance from him. It’s to support his child.

Why are you moving out? Do you have somewhere safe to go to?

Oh you’re right! I skim read and thought OP said she had a toddler and didn’t want anything to do with him because he was a prick!

(which honestly there are times we can all relate to that)

You need to forget the fact he's a prick and work out what you're entitled to - he should be funding his own child.

Try the Royal Mail for seasonal post sorters, the pay is not bad for unskilled work if you do nights and you need zero qualifications.