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Need to leave but with what money?

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Leah2325 · 16/10/2025 23:17

To try and cut a long story short, I am desperately wanting to leave my "relationship" with my children's father. I have tried to get him to leave but he simply refuses to. He has done nothing but cheat on me, for well over a year, even when I was going through major health problems (still am), whilst carrying our daughter and after giving birth. He has been physical towards me when I catch him which has involved the police but I was too scared to take it further and I'm even more scared now. I want to just leave altogether whilst he's at out one day, not saying a word, just packing up and going. I don't have a job as I prioritised being a full time mum to my 2 year old and 8 month old. So I claim UC, but have no savings unfortunately. I have no one I can ask to help me, absolutely no friends and my own family treat me like a second income. My mental health is hanging on by a thread, I am at my whits end and just want to go, I want to be far away from him and give my children the life they deserve but whilst I'm stuck around him, I am not being the mother they need. I'm barely surviving. What can I do that could help me get some money together where I'd be able to just up and leave without ever looking back? I'm desperate.

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TartanMammy · 16/10/2025 23:19

Contact women's aid, they can help you make an exit plan.

Speak to your bank, ask if they have any funds for leaving abuse - many do.

NotEnoughKnittingTime · 17/10/2025 10:17

Does he control the money or do you?

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