Sorry rewriting this topic because I realised it wasn’t the full story;
What would you have done?
I’m a stay at home mum, I decided it was time that I work and gain my power back. So told him that he now needs to help me in house work since I can’t do it all alone. And he said then I need to now go in halves with him when paying for rent bills etc. I told him I was gonna put the money in a joint account so but he wanted me to treat my money separately from his and when I looked a bit shocked, he said what did you expect, that I’m gonna work and earn money plus help you while you can do whatever you want with your money?
Then I told him again that there is a difference in how he says is because I offered to put it in a shared pot and we don’t then know how much percentage of it is going towards what and if we end up saving it we can do investment together but he refused. He wants to now go halves in everything this then makes me feel like a house sharing friend rather than a partner.
When I then asked for unlimited spending limit but within means, since I’m a stay at home mum doing everything 100%, because he saw it fit that I go halves with my minimum wage he didn’t agree to the limit that I doomed as necessary for me. And counter offered that if I do such spendings then we need to cut it from somewhere else to minimise the loss. Like if his telling me go halves because he is now doing house work; then shouldn’t he go halves in his wage when it comes to me doing the house work in his own logic?
How does this work?