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He doesn’t pay

12 replies

PeaceLilly12 · 16/09/2025 19:42

My sons father lives with me, has done for years, doesn’t work and doesn’t contribute to
living here. I’ve asked time and time again but all he says is he can’t as he’s paying his own bills for his house that is empty.

is this financial abuse?

OP posts:

ToTheStarsToTheSea · 16/09/2025 19:43

You know it is. Kick him out.

zipadeedodah · 16/09/2025 19:47

I saw a meme today that said

A man who spends money on you may or may not love you, but a man who won't spend any money on you definately doesn't love you.

I know you're not asking for money to be "spent on you" as such, but he doesn't really care if you are lumbered with all the expense of running a house does he?

NewYorkSummer · 16/09/2025 20:21

I’m not necessarily sure if this is classed as financial abuse when you’re happily allowing him to live in your house. He’s taking advantage but you’re going along with it somewhat quite frankly. Send him back to his own house and don’t allow him to live with you without a proper financial agreement in place.

Eviebeans · 16/09/2025 20:27

Why does he live in your house

Fraudornot · 16/09/2025 20:48

Why doesn’t he work?

Purplecatshopaholic · 16/09/2025 20:52

If it’s financial abuse you are complicit in a way op. This is more him taking advantage because you are letting him. Why let him live with you? Why let him get away with not contributing financially? He needs to work and pay his way. Or you make him move out.

AgnesX · 16/09/2025 20:53

If he's got his own house why is he living with you free gratis. Does he help with your child?

Snizzywu · 16/09/2025 20:56

Why doesn’t he work?

Also, how does he pay for his own house which has been left empty if he doesn’t work?

gamerchick · 16/09/2025 20:57

Tell him it's time he went home then. Seems to be the obvious answer.

Wolfpa · 17/09/2025 06:52

He is taking advantage of you but at the moment it doesn’t sound like financial abuse.

it’s time for him to go and live at his house.

Wot23 · 17/09/2025 10:28

so the man you had a child with lives with you but you appear not be in a loving relationship or you would not be asking such a question

financial "abuse" is not the core problem here, rather it is why have you allowed this to carry on for "years" and what has changed to make you kick up about it now?

Zanatdy · 19/09/2025 07:02

Just tell him to leave. He has an empty house to go to, what a waste of money

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