Sole residency does he stand a chance?

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my ex now wants sole residency as I lost the plot yesterday and told him to f off when he wouldnt sign the mediation forms to sort out the financials and access. He earns 150k a yr and works FT i earn 6k p/t school hrs term time only. he has never taken a day off to be with her and wouldnt see dd in the week as his work is too important (hed have to leave early to see her) I need mediatioon as things are particularly nasty now I want to apply for his 50% equity to be put in trust for dd so I can buy a house in the area and he can keep seeing her - hes adamnant this is not an option he also wants PR "because its my legal right" no mention of actually doing anything with this pr just to piss me off only. Im also thinking of moving 300 miles away for the sake of my peace of mind Im sick with worry all the time about him paying the maintainence /mortgage ( he hasnt yet this month) and Id be near my parents for support. Its not the ideal answer I know but could he stop me from moving???? I would have to find another job as well (Im allready looking into schools no 1 priority) and renting a house but I can stay with parents till I get sorted what does anyone think? on the move and also the residency issue ( he says as I told him to f off Im an unfit mother)

if every parent who told their ex to f off was 'unfit' there would be no-one left!

he is talking out of his arse and is trying to bully you.

are you in this all alone? have you got a solicitor? you might qualify for legal aid.

On your particular questions, from what you say he stands a cat's chance of having a residency order; he can't stop you from moving, but it is something to think through carefully because it might mean that the only practical contact is staying contact, do you want that?

not really I would rather he never saw dd at all now -but im not moving to stop him seeing her Im moving to put a roof over our heads with the minimum disruption to dd ( she starts jnr school here in sept and I have found a fantastic school nr my parents with places for september - the way I see it She might as well get the move and new school done in one quick go rather than start a new school then in 6 momths have to move and start a new school again.ie disrupt her twice in quick succession

I have a solicitor and have fwd his correspondence, she is going to write to him etc etc On the posiitive side He paid the maintanence in the account after a lot of nagging.

Youre right about the bullying now a few days have passed I can see that but at the time its very difficult he knows how to hurt me and he does it to wind me up knowing he'll get a reaction. I will have to try harder next time I see him.

mediation sounds a good idea- can you get him into it?Sounds like might be a way to diffuse the fact he knows how to push your buttons.

Agree with iheartdusty re custody -what planet is he on?

iheartdusty's comment that he can't stop you moving is wrong - You should be aware that he can apply for an order to stop you moving away with your DD (He might get it and he might not, but TBH it usually depends on the judge on the day).