Divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour.........

[FAQ]

what could constitute unreasonable behaviour?

Do you actually need to have evidence that they've actually done anything, or can stuff such as escort websites, (local ones), dating websites (multiple), saving websites with information on divorce in your favourites (just over 1 month after your wife falls pg with an unplanned 3rd pg, and just a few days after uploading a picture of woman that your wife has never met, and what is obviously her child onto your computer), etc etc etc etc be considered unreasonable behaviour??

Just been going through all the files and folders on this computer so I can download the stuff I want to keep and come across a LOT of the above mentioned stuff (escorts filed under "Muzik" in his webfavourites) dating back at least 1 1/2yrs........

I've just rung him and asked him straight out, he denies ever using the escorts (too expensive) and I'm slightly inclined to believe that, however he refused to say whether he'd cheated on me with anyone else stating that "we're not getting back together so I'm not going to go into the history of our relationship"........I hung up on him eventually.

I'm in the process of divorcing my husband on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour and I used the following:
him working constantly leaving me 'abndonned' and resentful
his friendship/realationship with afemale work colleague
intrducing above female collague as "the new leslaki"

obhviously my solicitor worded it all OK but those were the basic reasons I listed and solicitor said it was kre than enough. You don't need proof - just a list of bahviour which leads you to believe it is no longer possible for you to remain married to the twerp. Obviously that's not legal speak!

My ex is/was having an affair with the colleague and I was so tempted to divorce him on grounds of adultery but he has to admit that. You can still divorce hi on grounds of unreasonable behaviour even if he doesn't agree with your reasons.

I'd think the reasons you listed would be fine.

Good luck.

Why can't you just agree to divorce? Irretrievable breakdown?

because I can't prove adultery, and I don't want to be waiting around for another 1 1/2yrs before I can start proceedings........

I believe it depends if he contests it - not that I have any experience in this.

His ex named 10 things as unreasonable behaviours which included falling asleep during a dinner party for her friends at their own home (gone 1am and drink had been taken) and other such petty things (although I do think having to have lunch with MIL EVERY Sunday is unreasonable tbh!).

it's ok - in a heated phonecall today he told me that if I got him for Adultery he'd contest but "you can get me for unreasonable behaviour"

Thanks fuckwit H - for giving me "permission"

Excellent!

It is part of a negotiation FAQ: "unreasonable behaviour" is usually the option chosen by parties who want to divorce quickly and cleanly. Ideally the 2 of you agree on a couple of behaviours that can be cited without them being too embarrassing in the future.

You can probably manage to find other behaviours which don't involve websites, as part of the overall trade-off.

There is no such thing as irreconcilable differences in British divorce law. Divorce is either by separation or by fault. No proof is needed for unreasonable behaviour. You can say anything really. Judges assume that if you find it so unreasonable you want a divorce, you can have a divorce. Contested divorces are pointless. The other party never wins. Unlike in New York, bizarrely, where they often do.

FAQ - anything you consider unreasnable. No one else will see the divorce papers they are not for public viewing and to be honest a lot of the actual papers concerning the reasons etc are and have been destroyed and not archived

ms demeanor is right

judges don't have any interest in keeping people married who want to be divorced. if you can show some unreasonable behaviour and state that on that basis you can't tolerate being married to them any further, and accordingly the marriage has irretrievably broken down, then the judge will not look behind it or even make much of a judgment about whether the behaviour is unreasonable or not. they just look at the papers and if it seems to be made out they sign it and move on to the next one in a large stack...