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Cousin wants deceased relatives car

34 replies

MumsiesF · 13/08/2025 22:42

Hi,
looking for opinions here. An elderly relative recently passed away and am now executor of will. Said elderly relative bought a second hand small run around car about a year or two ago for 4k. Was told by aunt that all of a sudden cousins car had clapped out during the week and he would like the car. The car is considered an asset although not worth very much and solicitor had said it was ok to sell and proceeds could be put towards beneficiaries which include a couple of aunts and uncles and nieces/nephews. Relative did not have children. Awaiting valuation of car but aunt thinks it is worth nothing and cousin should just be given it. I feel that something should be put towards it or else that the valued amount should be deducted off his share at the end of probate if not willing to pay anything. It’s a very sensitive family situation which could quite easily escalate into a row. Maybe I should cut my losses for the beneficiaries which would probably work out at a very small amount anyway and just give him the banger! Can’t help but feeling annoyed, wouldn’t mind so much if there was offer of some cash but I just feel some people are very entitled and think they are free to help themselves to belongings because it’s ‘family’ and nobody should mind. Maybe I’m overreacting but aunts in favour of this. Hubby not happy & feels cousin should pay fair price. Sorry for rant! Just curious as to what people’s take on this would be?

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ThejoyofNC · 14/08/2025 12:55

Makes me sick when people turn into vultures after someone dies. Do everything by the book OP.

Roaminginthegloaming · 14/08/2025 16:28

This post has just reminded me of something.

When my Father-in-Law died suddenly (over 30 years ago) all of his five adult children dropped what they were doing and drove up to Cheshire to comfort their widowed mother.

When my husband’s brother arrived, within 10 minutes he asked their mother if he could have his dad’s car as it was newer and better than his own car! I couldn’t believe the nerve of it - so tactless!

My mother-in-law had never learned to drive, so she agreed that he could have the car.

The next thing he did was to go to the sideboard and got out the V5 Registration Certificate to transfer the car into his name. His dad hadn’t even been dead for 24 hours :(

Lovingbooks · 14/08/2025 16:50

These type of situations occur when relatives pass away, it’s amazing that people try to frame it that they are doing you a favour by taking the asset for free of course off your hands. Unless you want them to take the car then be party to any moan they might have about it sell it via private sale at least then you have got market value and no come back.

WanderleyWagon · 14/08/2025 16:57

I wouldn't offer it and say the value will be taken off their inheritance.

As the executor, you simply don't have the option of giving assets away, so you can (very politely) tell her that you're not legally allowed to do that, that the solicitors has confirmed that the car will need to be valued and sold, but that once the car has been valued, if the cousin wants to put in an offer to purchase a fair price they are welcome to.

ShanghaiDiva · 14/08/2025 16:59

As the executor of the estate it’s your role to look after the assets of the estate. Giving away the car would be a breach of that duty. Suggest you get a valuation from we buy any car or similar and then sell to cousin. Am sure you can find something online that explains the executor cannot just give away assets and thus your hands are tied.

Maddy70 · 14/08/2025 17:00

Get a valuation. Look on exchange and mart for similar. It can only be sold legally and not given away unless all parties agree

Whyamiherenow · 14/08/2025 18:36

If you are the executor then your role is a serious one and you are duty bound to act in the best interests of all beneficiaries. My understanding is that if you don’t do so then they can bring action against you personally. So I would be careful in this situation.

Peaktime · 14/08/2025 18:41

Is it any of your DH's business?

If my nephew/cousin needed a car and there was one, that wasn't worth much, going as part of an estate I was a beneficiary of, I'd let him have it.

Ask the beneficiaries what they'd like to do? Probably reduce his share to cover it, if that's appropriate.

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