inheritance - what's fair, what's right?

[ForGladOtter]

Hypothetical (not really) situation and I just would like others' take on it:

Two siblings inherit their parents' property which is now for sale. Sibling A is married with two children and is comfortably off. Sibling B is married with one child and is less financially well off. Sibling A would like the proceeds of the sale to be split three ways between the grandchildren. Sibling B would prefer a 50/50 split with the sibling. Sibling A thinks Sibling B is depriving the grandchildren of an equal share. Sibling B feels they are having to give up some their entitlement in favour of Sibling A's children. (Sibling B feels they also have more need of the financial windfall than Sibling A. It is acknowledged that their own circumstance is not the responsibility of the other. But it does feed into how they feel about the request for the 3-way split).

I would love to hear others' thoughts on this.

I agree with this, and I would have been sibling A in this scenario, as would DH, as we have two dc and each of our siblings only had one.
The house has been left to you two jointly, if it was left to the Grandchildren then that would be in the will. Anything other than a 50/50 split isn’t fair, you could have a sibling with 6 children getting 6/7 th of the estate !
Also you might have more children, if you are still of that age, or your sibling might.
An equal split between the two of you is fair. Your sibling is being greedy.

Split between the two siblings then up to them what they give or not for the grandchildren

Well sibling A is no fool are they?! They get two thirds of the inheritance and laugh all the way to the bank. Outrageous suggestion.

I hope that you are sibling B because sibling A is a CF.

I vote 50/50 split.

Split between siblings and let them sort out their own children.

My Mum's estate is going 3 ways with a third each to two siblings and a third between two grandkids.

I'm the sibling without kids and was asked by mum if I minded a three way split. I 100% don't mind. If I inherited in my 20's (as is likely for the grandkids) it would have been a total game changer. Who am I to deny young people that kind of start to.adulthood?

The will is the will. Keep it that way

Sibling A is a cheeky and greedy fucker! A 50:50 split sibling split is the only solution

This sounds like it has become a nightmare, when it should have been really simple. It reminds me of what happened with my grandfather's Will. I know my parents objected, so I've no idea whether he went ahead with it in the end.

My grandfather took pity on my parent's sibling because he didn't have a very settled working life and had two marriages and seven children. My parents had three children and my Dad had a good job and a house with enough room for my grandparents to live with them so my mother could care for them with my Dad's active support.

As we three kids grew older we spent a lot of time with them, took them to appointments, sat and talked to them, watched tv with them etc, while my cousins didn't see them very often at all and my parent's sibling only visited occasionally and had no involvement in caring. My Grandad's plan was to split his estate 30/70 between his two children based on the number of children. My parents were understandably upset. I've no idea what happened in the end, because it wasn't discussed with us as young adults. A well-meaning decision but a kick in the teeth for the people who had cared for them.

50/50…grandchildren should be left monetary or sentimental gifts separately from the main split in my opinion. This is what my grandparents did. How would sinking A feel if sibling B had 5 children…I’d bet a whole lot different! The money will come to their children in the future or they can split their half immediately. Sibling A chose to have 3 children, that was their decision and nothing to do with the split of the estate.

Parent needs to take a long holiday and blow the lot 😂

50/50 no question. If I was sibling B I would tell sibling A that I was expecting twins and see how they feel about a 25/75% split.

50/50 Split between the two siblings!

Split between the two siblings. No doubt!

Definitely split between the two siblings. What if B wanted to have more children in the future? Would A reimburse?

50/50 between siblings.
We havr a similar hypothetical situation happening in the hopefully distant future. Where by there are two grandchildren on one side, and about 20 on the other.
Also the property owners children are not from their marriage to each other, they have been together for 50 years. But had children young with different partners
The only fair thing is to split equally between the next generation only.

What does the will say? Follow the parents wishes.

If no will,inheritance laws split assets between siblings equally if no will or spouses involved.

Sibling A and B should recieve the same. Financial circumstances and number of children dont come into it. Would sibling A be pushing this if sibling B had four children? I think not.

What happens if mum needs care? I am sure I'm not the first person to raise this question, but the first call on the proceeds of her marital home's sale should be her care. At which point neither sibling A or B can expect to scoop the pot.

Split 50/50. If there are 2 children of the surviving parent, even without a will, it will be split equally between them. No question at all. It goes to the immediate 'next of kin'. It doesn't take into account the number of children they have, it's irrelevant.
The other sibling is being a cheeky basket. Tell them, he/she can do what they want with their share, as you will do with yours/your OH.

Unless there is a will dictating a different split, the next of kin of the deceased are the 2 siblings and so the proceeds should be split 50/50 between those.

Secondary relationships can be considered in writing a will. So giving bequests to DgC rather than DCs as a choice.

But as beneficiaries, I would be looking 50/50.

Split equally between the siblings, suggesting otherwise is greedy.

Unless there's a will specifying otherwise an equal split with sibling will be mandated by laws of intestacy. A sibling can then give their share to the kids if they prefer but they can't take away yours or tell you to give it up

It should be divided between the 2 siblings it was them that were left the house not the grandchildren

50/50 between the two siblings. Anything else is nuts. Besides what if sibling B has further children? Sibling A should stay in their lane.

If there's no will the siblings don't get to decide. The rules of intestacy kick in which is 50/50 to the siblings. So silly to be talking about it really.