parental; greement forms?

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does anyone out there know of any good guidelines for a parental agreement form - my exp is applying for parental resposibility and I want to ensure he doesnt dictate how my dd and I live... long story Im applying for his equity to be transfered into dd name so that we can remain in the area on the sale of jt owned property without the full equity I will not be able to afford to live nearby & will have to move 100's of miles away which wont help the contact situation so I want to cover all fields before hes granted parental responsibility as if hes granted parental resp before the ruling on the equity and I lose the app he could stop me from moving to a cheaper area and force me into rented accom and spend what equity on rent - I cant afford a mortgage I earn £6k a year he earns £150k per year.

It's a simple proforma downloadable from the court website.

Go to www.courts-service.co.uk

Then go to the purple box on the left side of the home page marked "Forms".

Then go to the box marked "Form Title" and insert "parental responsibility agreement". It comes up with the form.

Print one off, then you and ex have to, either separately or together go to the county court office where a clerk will witness your signature.

You both need to take photo ID and you need to take the birth certificate.

The court don't charge for the service and it takes 2 mins.

sorry it's www.hmcourts-service.gov.uk

mumblechum what about a parenting agreement form where it sets out the day to days matters - as Im sure hes going to try and start dictaing matters he was extremely abusive towards me last night and now refuses to speak to me and discuss things - Im looking onto mediation as well by the way

I think maybe you mean a parenting agreement. These are sometimes drawn up as the result of going to mediation.

Whereas the parental responsibility agreement is a legal deed and therefore enforceable in law, a parenting agreement is an expression of wishes and intentions, is not a legal deed and not enforceable.

yes thats exactly what I want is there any guidelines on them that i can look at prior to going to mediation so that I can forulise something to go with as I know wheat hes like and hell force me into something Im not comfortable with in front of the mediators hell be all sweetnes and light when the reality is hes turning really nasty and abusive and Im still very upset about the whole situation so quite emotional so I need to get as prepared as possible sorry to be a pain

You're not being a pain. Sorry don't have any precedents, don't really do them as by the time cases have come to me the parties are usually at loggerheads.

I suggest the heads of agreement should be:

1. Where your dd will live

1. Where she'll go to school and if private, who pays the fees

1. How frequently she sees her dad - suggest for example, alternate weekends, Fri 6pm to Sun pm, or if she won't stay over, for him to pick her up 10 am Sat, return 6pm same day every week, one evening after school, return time say 7pm, half Christmas, summer, easter & half term hols.

1. Who does pick ups and collections for contact

1. How much maintenance he pays, unless already sorted thru' CSA

1. Any other relevant stuff, eg medications etc.

Mumblechum you are f ab - ( we are getting to the loggerheads stage but im conctious of the fact that this isnt good for me or my dd so trying to ensure things are sorted before it gets worse) the contact bit is great he does alt sat 10-6 but not overnights she doesnt want to or is she ready (night terrors etc) I offered 1 evg after school he did one then said he couldnt commit because of his work - I also cant see him committing to that much time off work to be with her - his fav phrase is client appts notwithstanding so I would find it hard to agree to something which I know he will not adhere to and should we move because of only having my equity then he probably wouldnt make any effort at all after say 6 months - I dont want to set up her for a big disappointment but thanks for everything I will draft something up -
I really appreciate all yor help mumblechum you are really helpful.

No problem.