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Grandparents: Do you give your adult DC without kids similar financial help as those who have DC?

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Sundaycoffee · 15/04/2025 11:43

For example, if you spend money on gifts / days out for grandchildren, do you find yourself compensating adult DCs that don't have children in other ways in the interest of fairness? E.g. more expensive birthday gifts

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maudlinbrassmonkey · 15/04/2025 18:14

Sounds like the simplest solution is for your child to have a grandfather who gives nothing to anyone because he’s a classic narcissist and everything is about him. Then no family members can feel slighted as we all equally get nothing.

Lucky us! 😬

Kuretake · 15/04/2025 18:17

JoyousEagle · 15/04/2025 15:49

I always disagree with that opinion. It makes no sense to me. Fine if you only want to leave money to your children, but if you also want to leave something (maybe a smaller amount) to your grandchildren I don’t see why that should be evened out.
When my grandma died, the estate was split 4 ways, 1/4 to each child, and 1/4 split equally between the grandchildren. I think it would have been insane of my mum to argue that her sister got an unfair benefit because she has more children than my mum does, and therefore in total my aunt’s immediate family got more money. The money went to individual adult grandchildren. Not their parents.

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I think people worry with doing it this way that there may end up being additional grandchildren after the estate has been divided in this way. Especially if your children are male they could have more kids in later life.

Alwaysoneoddsock · 15/04/2025 18:20

I don’t have my own children (not through choice). I would never expect my parents to even things up for me when they take my siblings children out, on holiday, invest in their savings accounts or buy them presents. I know they are left an amount in their will too - it’s completely up to my parents what they choose to do with their money. I would like my parents to offer me some of their time on occasion (but that’s a different thread!).

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