5 years ago my parents gave me 10k as a gift when me and my husband moved house to buy new furniture ect, they had released equity from their house a few years earlier so had some money. At no point when the money was given was there any mention of paying in back in instalments or at all or standing orders requested to be set up. Now my father has asked out of the blue if he can have the money back and when I queried this and advised I thought it was a gift he stated that he "assumed" that I would pay it back. He said that they have spent all the money that they released from the house so they would like this back. When I advised him I didnt think this was fair he stated that it was not his fault I had chosen a career path that wasnt well paid ( I am a social worker). Also just to mention my parents loaned my brother 20k to buy a business 25 years ago that has been very lucrative and allowed him to lead a very nice lifestyle, that 20k has been tripled and then some. He paid it back, but this was the understanding from the start and standing orders set up.
I am questioning if I being unreasonable as to not wanting or thinking I should be required to give it back. Wishing now I had never had it and taken out a loan instead. No haters please I am not a bad person and just wonder if anyone else has been in this predicament.