Child maintenance

[Littlesticklebrick]

My ex and i divorced about 8 years ago. We had to go to court to decide on the financial settlement of our family home. We didn’t discuss any child maintenance in the court room. It was spoken about on the same day by our solicitors & my ex offered £300 a month, this was accepted ( we have 1 son)
My ex works for himself and throughout this period it was very hard to find what he earns a year and areas were hidden.

Fast forward to now, we had a slight disagreement on a new club my son has started. I’ve paid for every club for many years. I suggested he paid for this one to which he has. But what he’s done is lower my child maintenance by £20 month. Now, I do know this isn’t by much but the principal has bothered me. And actually at this moment in time with the cost of living, I will notice this over the year.

My question is, can he just change the payment? I’m thinking yes as I don’t think I’ve got any official paperwork. Thank you.

Unfortunately he can do whatever he wants, including stopping all payments, if there isn’t an official court or CMS agreement in place

What a petty man, I am so sorry for you having to ask for an extra £20 so that your DC can attend an activity, only for your ex to pay, but then deduct this from the £300, words fail me.

If there’s no consent order, court ruling or CMS agreement, he could stop paying you CM tomorrow.

You could go through CMS but if he’s self employed, you could end up worse off.

Does he have your son much? Sometimes £300 + the costs of the days Dad's have them is alot for people to cover. They also don't get child benefit etc to help.

For me, it really depends on his earnings/lifestyle and how many nights he has his son.

@Mindymomo thanks. He earns a very good salary & had a very comfortable life. this has been done to annoy me. I’ll leave it and won’t react.

@Nuttygarlic there’s no fighting. I was firm for once and asked him to pay the club. I’ve paid and still do for every other club.

@Littlesticklebrick No one goes to court for a financial settlement and doesn’t get one. I assume you have a clean break and ex doesn’t pay anything for you. What he pays for dc is either via the government scheme or agreed by the court. Why did your advocate not mention this in court? Would you get more from CMS? What formal agreement do you actually have? You seem to have agreed to an ad hoc arrangement out of court and your ex is obviously petty. However I might see a solicitor if you think the money needs revisiting.