Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Money matters

Find financial and money-saving discussions including debt and pension chat on our Money forum. If you're looking for ways to make your money to go further, sign up to our Moneysaver emails here.

making a request for an appointee for a disabled family member

3 replies

chickenpotnoodle · 15/03/2025 15:34

I am wanting to make a will for my estate, just to get things in order. I am an appointee for my son (age 29) who has autism- relatively independant, not capable of managing his own affairs. He has a younger brother who will not want this responsibility. I want to request a solicitor in my will to continue with helping him with benefits, and pay his bills and give him spending money - as I do now. I know local councils do this.
Has anyone considered/done this and can give me advice ?

OP posts:
Bromptotoo · 15/03/2025 16:30

chickenpotnoodle · 15/03/2025 15:34

I am wanting to make a will for my estate, just to get things in order. I am an appointee for my son (age 29) who has autism- relatively independant, not capable of managing his own affairs. He has a younger brother who will not want this responsibility. I want to request a solicitor in my will to continue with helping him with benefits, and pay his bills and give him spending money - as I do now. I know local councils do this.
Has anyone considered/done this and can give me advice ?

Who is appointee for benefits is in the gift of the DWP. Sure, you can nominate someone but you can't be certain DWP will accept that.

Would some sort of Lasting Power of Attorney be an option? First question there would be whether son has capacity to give one. Could your younger son be Attorney but delegate gat the Solicitor to do the leg work?

Unless a Solicitor is someone specialising in disability and benefits I'd be chary of letting them deal with (eg) UC and PIP applications. Too many are useless at that stuff.

I'd also ask how a lawyer on £n/hr is going to be paid.

Are there family, professionals or a charity active in with Autism who you can turn to for advice?

WeAreTheThirteen · 15/03/2025 16:59

I have experience in dwp benefits. Usually once an appointee either passes away or wishes to end their appointeeship, if no other amity member wishes to take over then Social Services usually take it on

chickenpotnoodle · 16/03/2025 08:28

I am the appointee, my son has capacity, but is too vulnerable to manage his own money - I'd prefer to have a solicitor or the LA look after his finances, I want to make an specification in my will to have the house sale proceeds to buy him somewhere manageable - but it would have to be supported living or similar.
My youngest son has had lots of issues with the behaviour of his older brother and has no relationship with him - plus I want him to be free enough to live his life.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page