Looking for tips to help build up an emergency fund. I'm a higer earner earning 6 figues, but I struggle with budgeting/saving for the medium term.
I put most of my spare money in a pension, and live quite frugally day-to-day. - for example I have a cheap food shop, no subscriptions, no beauty treatments, rarely buy clothes. But my one vice is going on holiday.
I'm wondering what I can do to help me build up an emergency fund. For example, what % of my salary should I look to put away every month? Should I open a separate account for this? How can I stop myself dipping into this account when I want things?
My main issue is a mental one and making large purchases, rather than an issue of cash flow. I can be a bit weak, for example I budget X amount for something, but end up spending more as I want to spoil myself or others and I have the money available. However, this is detrimental to my medium-term savings goals. I've seen apps recommend like YNAB but it feels like a lot of effort (maybe it's worth it?) - it also feels scary to be that rigid (but maybe that's what I need). Any other tips or quick fixes?
Longer info for more context: In the past 6/7 years my salary massively increased after completing a course and changing career. This enabled me to pay off some debt and save for a house deposit - finally buying my first property 3 years ago. In the past, my emergency fund was the money I put away to save for a house deposit (I actually lost my job, used some of the deposit savings to tide me over, then rebuilt the deposit once employed again). After I bought my house, I massively upped my pension contributions.
In terms of savings, I reliably put away £600 per month from my wages - but I use this to go on holiday with friends or my boyfriend. So I never build a huge pot. I also get quarterly bonuses, which I put into an ISA. However, I am struggling to retain large amounts of bonus money over time as I pay for various experiences and larger purchases. For example, I bought a newer car (costing approx £12000) 2 years ago as mine was 20 years old and on it's way out. Last year I surprised my boyfriend with a long weekend away. This year I'm taking my mum on a luxury holiday (approx £10,000 for both of us) to celebrate big birthdays - she hasn't been abroad for over 20 years.
Obviously, the easy answer is stop buying things and going on holiday. However, I guess I'm looking for balance - I don't want to be in a position where I do nothing because I'm always saving, but I also don't want to be in a position where I lose my job and have no money to fall back on. Is there a strategy for budgeting where I can feel like I'm enjoying things now, but also ensuring I'm secure for the future? I feel like my pension is sorted.