AITA?

[NewMum0512]

Partner and I have now been together about 18 months. I am a “single” Mum who struggles financially and have big monthly bills like a mortgage etc.
My partner currently lives with me about 80% of the time but has never offered any financial contribution.
He earns £90k and has a maisonette with a tenant bringing in £750 a month.
In all fairness he does on occasion bring a few grocery items in, but this is very occasionally.
He does take me out once every 2/3 months I’d say but nowhere particularly fancy.
AITA for thinking he should make some sort of financial contribution?
I’m torn as I’d be paying all the bills whether he was here or not and it’s not like he’s a massive drain on hot water, electric etc. He’s also a bit odd in that he will take his washing home to do at his.
So as I say AITA in this situation?
If I’m not, why am I not?

You absolutely are TA. He is the absolute MN definition of a cocklodger. He gives you nothing. A few groceries occasionally. He's got a good salary, rental income and offers nothing in return. Does that sound like a bargain? If you were to marry him do you really think he would be doing joint finances?
You're asking this because you absolutely do know who's TA in this.

Did you mean, NTA?

Or as we like to say on MN, YANBU.

Why are you a single mum? You have a partner

A man who watches you struggle like this cannot possibly truly love you. He is inherently selfish and out for what he can take. You are seeing a window into your future right now, and it really doesn't look great. I'm so sorry.

Did you lose any benefits when he moved in with you?
If so he should be compensating you for that at least

Oh no he has to go! He earns good money and is very tight!

He should definitely be putting in cash towards groceries and consumables, probably also utility bills if he's there 80% of the time!

However is the child not his? Are you a "single" mum on paper, but with a new partner there 80% of the time?

To me, your fixed bills (like rent, childcare if it isn't his child etc) shouldn't be his responsibility. But consumables like food shopping, electricity / gas should be contributed to if he's there 80% of the time, because he's using those by being there.